You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's fine for people to read and try to get tips... BUT it's also important to evaluate the details. You don't speak like that to people (man or woman).krazyboy99 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Because thats how you get ahead in this world. Maybe if you took that advice, you'd get a greencard.ChrizZ said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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The Motivator said:funny funny stuff here
by the way Elstud, of your reading, THIS is what success looks like buddy
This girl, I met her from myspace 3 months ago.......we kissed at my house and i got a handjob, but she gave me an anti-slut defense that i couldnt get around. In the next 3 weeks, i tried to see her again, she kept flaking, so I called her a **** ***** dyke all these bad things haha (burned the bridge completely)
then a week later, when i was drunk, i "drunk texted" an apology to her, and she forgave me
then for 6 weeks didnt really contact her, and 4 days ago i flaked on her when i texted her and asked her to chill
yesterday my gf cancelled on me, so i texted this girl and she agreed to meet up at 9:30PM
I hope this helps people here
I'm not here to have dudes tell me how to get laid... I'm here to see WTF I'm so lonely for, and see if anyone else feels like I do.. Plus I get banned from every forum I go to and this is my only option ATM, lolkrazyboy99 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Nope...not a virginChrizZ said:
HAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!MacAvoy said:
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Dude, you have over 1,000 post.ChrizZ said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.