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Hello again, boys. I'd meant to type this up last night, but I was incredibly tired from my day and the night before, so I decided to relax and be lazy.

Let me briefly bring you back in time to this moment from LR - 102:
Here's the thing...my greed nearly got me in trouble this night...

While at work, I had matched with a girl on Tinder who was available this same night...also in Philly. I figured that my girl from last weekend was a "warm lead", so I came to the decision that I would see how things went with this Tinder girl first, and then, based on that, decide how I would end my night.

Since I knew where my girl would be, I took this girl to that Barstool spot I mentioned above. When I told the other girl and her friends that I started out there before moving to Wicked Wolf, they were surprised and told me they don't like Barstool. So I figured it would be a "safe" spot to go where I wouldn't run into her. Well...the date was going fine, but the logistics weren't going to work; she's an au pair and lives with a host family, so I can't go to her place, and since I live with my parents an hour away, she can't come to mine. I started texting the other girl, asking where she was, so I could meet her. Her response? Barstool - she and her friends were at the same bar as me and my date.

Luckily, we didn't see each other, and she told me they left to go to another spot.

I make up an excuse to cut things short with my date, since I know things can't go much further tonight. I leave with her, have a quick but surprisingly passionate makeout session with her (we kissed in the bar, but she came off as a prude to me, turns out she was just shy and doesn't like PDA). We said our goodbyes, and I met up with my girl and some of her friends at another bar shortly before it closed.
There's not a lot to this, but I'll provide some background context on this girl. I went and looked through my phone to see how we got to this point: we matched on Tinder, had a short conversation, I asked for her phone number and Instagram (so I could get a better look at her), and we planned out a date for later that night. Her English is good, not great, and she struggles with understanding literal and figurative meanings of words, as well as expressions, so there's a slight language barrier sometimes. She also has a very thick accent.

Having returned from my vacation and had a weekend to relax and recoup, I decided to reach out to this girl again. The weekend prior, she hit me up, but I was still sick, recovering from the abuse I put my body through during that vacation. Like I mentioned in the quote above, she is an au pair from France for a gay family who has cameras set up throughout their place, so I couldn't go to hers. Her host family doesn't allow her to use their car outside of work, and I live with my family, so my place wasn't an option either.

Interest seemed high, so I asked her if she would be down to share a room with me, since we didn't have anywhere else private to go. Do note, I generally suggest MAKING THE PLAN, rather than ASKING, but in my case, I didn't want to spend the time and money on going up to Philadelphia if she wasn't on the same page - so I wanted to see if she would bite.

And she did.

She even offered to help me pay for the room. I declined that offer and told her all she had to do was wear something nice, and if she wanted to pay for something, she could pick out the bottle of wine we would share.

Now...I had a very busy day...I work from home on Fridays, but had an old plate (the one that I said re-entered my life after initially wanting "something more serious") hit me up in the morning wanting me to come over since she had the house to herself, but only for the early part of the day. So I banged her out, bought my groceries for the week, worked from home, went to the gym, and got myself ready to go up to Philly to pick up this girl and check into our hotel. By the time I checked in, picked her up, and brought her to the hotel, it was LATE - like around midnight.

The room looked much nicer online (it always does), but it worked for what we were using it for. She wore a tight-fitted black dress, some low heels, and picked out a bottle of pinot. I kissed her when I picked her up, we made out a few times in the room, and just sat there for a bit, talking, drinking, and watching a movie on the hotel TV. At one point, she commented along the lines of "I'm not as much of an angel as you might think", to which I replied, "I was hoping you weren't". We started making out again, but this time we went all the way. The sex itself was good; she had very big, nice boobs, and was otherwise very enthusiastic. Though something worth noting, because of her thick French accent, the way she talked dirty was more funny than arousing...the way she would say "you like my pu**y?" and "I want your di*k" was...different...

Afterwards, we cuddled, sipped more wine, and listened to her describe her journey that led her to the USA. We were both getting tired, but decided to go one more round before we went to sleep. I told her I had to leave somewhat early in the morning because I had to be home in time for the coaching calls I had with my guys. She understood, so we went to bed, woke up early, got everything cleaned up, and checked out.

I drove her home, kissed her goodbye, dropped her off, then raced home in time for my Zoom calls.

She's quite sweet and lacks the entitlement that most American women have. She was very thankful and appreciative of everything I did; everything from booking the room, to picking her up, to dropping her off, to even offering her water in bed after the sex. She was planning to take the public transport back to her host family's place, and didn't even hassle me for a ride - I had to insist. But as far as seeing her in the future, I won't be booking hotel rooms regularly and traveling several hours for sex, and she physically cannot do so because she doesn't have access to a car. She didn't seem expectant of the future, and simply appreciated the fact that I had spent time with her. We'll see how that plays out in the future.

What's kinda fun lately is that, while I was getting off a 2-month dry spell only about a month ago, I am now having the opposite problem. Now there's this girl, the one from 102 in Philly who got me off that dry spell (who also wanted to see me last night, but I was just too tired to bother getting ready to have a whole night out), the one I slept with earlier this same morning, the one from 104 in Ocean City who wants me to visit and spend the weekend with her next weekend, and recently another plate who fell off, matched with me on Hinge, and is down to hang out once she gets back from California.

At first I was thirsty, but now I'm kinda drowning. I can't be too upset and take it for granted, because I know how quickly that can shift, but I find it interesting how quickly that problem solved itself.

As a side thought, one thing that I wish I had more of in my life, despite all these recent women, is that there aren't many "baddies" around. The women I see posting about their OnlyFans while living out in LA or Miami, I'd love access to those women (physically, not in terms of a relationship). Unfortunately, that's not a reality in Delaware. Makes me kinda wonder how well I'd do out there, considering the shortcoming that I do not have much money. Maybe that's something I'll run into when school's back in session and I can meet some of the college girls out here - assuming they don't all fall into the category of turning cold when they find out I'm older. Anyway...just some shower thoughts I wanted to share.

Hope everybody is enjoying their weekend.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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one thing that I wish I had more of in my life, despite all these recent women, is that there aren't many "baddies" around. The women I see posting about their OnlyFans while living out in LA or Miami, I'd love access to those women (physically, not in terms of a relationship). Unfortunately, that's not a reality in Delaware. Makes me kinda wonder how well I'd do out there, considering the shortcoming that I do not have much money. Maybe that's something I'll run into when school's back in session and I can meet some of the college girls out here - assuming they don't all fall into the category of turning cold when they find out I'm older.
Delaware is not a hub for OnlyFans baddies. Philadelphia likely has some OnlyFans women, but I also would not call Philadelphia a hub.

Miami, Los Angeles, and Las Vegas are likely the biggest hubs for OnlyFans women.

Money and status are likely to matter more but your looks could help you offset money & status issues.

Good lay report overall for 105.
 

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I wouldn't advise booking hotel rooms for random chicks you've met on tinder it's a recipe for disaster in 2025

Random sex with a random foreign swipe app girl that highly likely isn't going anywhere !?!, how old are you and how desperate are you for sex !?!

it just all seems a bit pointless and uneconomical

Really the idea of pickup is too get girls you actually want to be involved with and rotate them

not just pick anything that comes across your path for aimless sex ....
 

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I wouldn't advise booking hotel rooms for random chicks you've met on tinder it's a recipe for disaster in 2025

Random sex with a random foreign swipe app girl that highly likely isn't going anywhere !?!, how old are you and how desperate are you for sex !?!

it just all seems a bit pointless and uneconomical

Really the idea of pickup is too get girls you actually want to be involved with and rotate them

not just pick anything that comes across your path for aimless sex ....
Did somebody hack your account?

The amount of typos, coupled with the fact that you're surprised that I'm sleeping around (which is what I do), is...odd.
 

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Hey man thanks for sharing your report. Was an interesting read. I hope you get your own place soon. Sounds rough having to share a hotel just for some sex.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Did somebody hack your account?

The amount of typos, coupled with the fact that you're surprised that I'm sleeping around (which is what I do), is...odd.
It's not the fact your sleeping around

It's the fact you're still living in your parents spare room , trying to facilitate aimlessly getting laid seemingly above all else in life

Like I said random foreign swipe app chick , paying for a hotel , travelling

Your doing way too much for virtually nothing

Typos are the least of your worries
 

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It's not the fact your sleeping around

It's the fact you're still living in your parents spare room , trying to facilitate aimlessly getting laid seemingly above all else in life

Like I said random foreign swipe app chick , paying for a hotel , travelling

Your doing way too much for virtually nothing

Typos are the least of your worries
How many times have we been through this...
 

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It's not the fact your sleeping around

It's the fact you're still living in your parents spare room , trying to facilitate aimlessly getting laid seemingly above all else in life

Like I said random foreign swipe app chick , paying for a hotel , travelling

Your doing way too much for virtually nothing

Typos are the least of your worries
Sometimes there are dudes that chase tail so much that they neglect their future. I’ve done my fair share of chasing tail, was successful, reflected back on my own success that I really had not future lifestyle to show for it…made me realize there needs to be more substance.
OP is in for a rude awakening due to his lack of foresight and will realize it when he hits his mid-30’s.
His notch count is his only pride out of life.
 

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Also to add,
Fakers look for the opportunity, Makers create their own.
Substance is what keeps women around, seems like OP lives a care free life, and the women that he bangs do too. Some say low quality, but for those of us that have been there, no evidence of attachment from any of the girls he has claimed to slay.
One-trick pony.
 

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It's the fact you're still living in your parents spare room , trying to facilitate aimlessly getting laid seemingly above all else in life

Like I said random foreign swipe app chick , paying for a hotel , travelling

Your doing way too much for virtually nothing

Typos are the least of your worries
On the other side of the coin, if the OP was say 44 and had alot of money, yet couldn't attract girls easily or get laid, he would get crushed on that aspect.

It's a decent LR.
 
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If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Sometimes there are dudes that chase tail so much that they neglect their future. I’ve done my fair share of chasing tail, was successful, reflected back on my own success that I really had not future lifestyle to show for it…made me realize there needs to be more substance.
OP is in for a rude awakening due to his lack of foresight and will realize it when he hits his mid-30’s.
His notch count is his only pride out of life.
Also to add,
Fakers look for the opportunity, Makers create their own.
Substance is what keeps women around, seems like OP lives a care free life, and the women that he bangs do too. Some say low quality, but for those of us that have been there, no evidence of attachment from any of the girls he has claimed to slay.
One-trick pony.
I dare you to say something positive to me. I want to see if you're capable of it.

You seemingly return to this forum every other week or so to leave a couple of pointless replies to whatever topics are at the top of the feed, then leave to repeat the process later.

Here are your most recent replies to me, starting with something that didn't seem relevant at all to the thread about the gym girl giving me IOIs:
Yep, dudes think getting the digits a milestone to achieve.
Why would any woman give out her phone number without any follow-up? Just so she can have a pen-pal or IG follower?
No dudes, they expect you to shoot your shot and make actual plans.
Your first and second replies to my promo thread, where I offered to help guys wanting to get laid more:
Chill my guy, OP is just scrapping $100 here and there to pay for rent in Delawhere?
You need to have charisma, not quite showing in OP :)
And your first and second replies in my LR - 100 thread:
To much writing and pony hopping for this to be legit. Guys have fairytales too :)
Thank you.
You’re in small town Delaware, making your LR’s seem like you’re from a big city.
You’re ChatGPT if I were to create a romance novel from a wanna-be player

“Because I would prefer to keep sleeping with this girl for the short time she's around, I don't go around meeting other girls, and she doesn't go around meeting other guys

Same pattern of texting throughout the week, with still no commitment on date 3.”

Seriously?
You think about me more than some of these women I describe in my posts...where are your field reports at? Why don't you show me how it's done?
 

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I have this setup going currently with one of my girls, and not sure if it might work for you. We rent hotel rooms to mess around; however, we make the plans 2 or 3 weeks in advance and do it during work hours when we’re supposed to be working from home. This not only adds suspense, anxiety, and anticipation to the relationship, but also a sense of adventure—like we’re hiding from the world.

The only thing she expects from me to keep this setup is to see her at least once per week or every two weeks. Again, I just take her to lunch during work hours. We don’t see each other on weekends or do things after work but we do text a lot which can be cumbersome.

As to why I have this setup, it works for both of us currently, and for our own reasons.

Maybe you can do this when you are working from home, and make her pay half.
 

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Next time get one hotel room and schedule them in 3hrs intervals. Save money that way. J/k. Haha.

Glad you are having fun. Who cares how you make it happen. What matters is you do make it happen.

I've had several girls I took to hotels when the need presented itself. Nothing wrong with that.
 

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I have this setup going currently with one of my girls, and not sure if it might work for you. We rent hotel rooms to mess around; however, we make the plans 2 or 3 weeks in advance and do it during work hours when we’re supposed to be working from home. This not only adds suspense, anxiety, and anticipation to the relationship, but also a sense of adventure—like we’re hiding from the world.

The only thing she expects from me to keep this setup is to see her at least once per week or every two weeks. Again, I just take her to lunch during work hours. We don’t see each other on weekends or do things after work but we do text a lot which can be cumbersome.

As to why I have this setup, it works for both of us currently, and for our own reasons.

Maybe you can do this when you are working from home, and make her pay half.
Nah, I don't want to make it a habit unless she facilitates it somehow.

I have plates who live closer to me, don't cost anything, and are not required to spend the night. Those are much more ideal conditions - I just enjoy the novelty of experiencing new women.
 

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On the other side of the coin, if the OP was say 44 and had alot of money, yet couldn't attract girls easily or get laid, he would get crushed on that aspect.

It's a decent LR.
Nobody would give a **** about OP at 44 , 44 year old men shouldn't be prioritising sleeping with random women off swipe apps either

Its baseless and immature

Grow up ffs
 

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Nobody would give a **** about OP at 44 , 44 year old men shouldn't be prioritising sleeping with random women off swipe apps either

Its baseless and immature

Grow up ffs
Missing the point.

OP is sleeping with random women while living with his parents and is getting crushed for it

People are telling him “get your life in order, stop wandering aimlessly looking to get laid.“. Suppose he listened to people and dId what they said, yet once he did, for any reason, he couldn’t attract women anymore. He would get crushed for it.

Any opportunity any one has to crush people, they will take it.
 

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[QUOTE="BadBoy89, post: 3166620, member: 152332"
Any opportunity any one has to crush people, they will take it.
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Its not about crushing anyone its been posted on an open forum specifically for discussion

Men have been picking women up since the dawn of time its nothing new, nor in these circumstances does it even warrant a pat on the back

Its just literally teenage swipe app shenanigans with a hotel and travel thrown in between

and I'm assuming OP is a lot older than a teenager
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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