LR - 100

[BPH]

Alright, we've hit the triple digits, and I think this deserves its own story. I recognize this as something of a milestone. I didn't learn seduction to hit this number specifically, but it is a byproduct of learning these skills, coupled with my desire to experience a variety of women.

Some of you may disagree (@self_is_an_illusion ) with this approach, or this volume, so this thread might not be for you. Some things I did right, some things I did wrong, but the purpose of this post is to describe an experience in a way that others may learn something from it.

It WILL be a long read. You do NOT have to read it.

Anyway, let's get into this...

This situation piggybacks off of this thread I drunkenly made: This sh**'s getting old (pun intended)

For the uninitiated, I met a gorgeous girl with 2 of her friends a few minutes before closing time at the local college bar I was bi***ing about when it came to women having a problem with my age during conversations that were otherwise going well.

This girl did NOT have that problem.

I met her close to the end of my night, so I was quite drunk, and details are foggy. I introduced myself to the group and told the one I wanted that I thought she was gorgeous and had to come say hi, before introducing myself to her friends. She's tall, not in any sorority, has a brace on one of her hands from a practice-related injury, and is part of the school's dance team. Truthfully, I don't remember the exact flow of the conversation; we did a slater race (a specific mixed drink that people traditionally chug as a group) with her friends before I focused back on talking to her. I don't recall how it came up, but she didn't have a problem with my age and was interested in seeing me. She wanted to be taken out first, and asked me where I would take her. I picked a nearby spot off-campus, dimly lit and low-key. I invited her to come with me there tomorrow night (Friday) because I will be out in Philadelphia with some friends on Saturday for my birthday.

The thing is, she wanted me to take her out early, around 6PM, and then tried 8PM, when I mentioned both were too early. I suggested 10PM, half-joking that I wanted to take her on a date, not be a pregame to whatever she does later that night afterwards. I got her number and texted her drunkenly a little back-and-forth, basically about the timing of the date and her being interested but not wanting it to be so late. The point I made was that I wanted the date to be how she ended her night, not how she started it. She replied that she thought that should be her decision, whether she starts or ends her night with me. I replied, agreeing, but also said that it's my decision whether to take her out.

I figured this would go nowhere, but I knew this might have some legs when she replied in the morning, continuing the conversation.

She still wanted it earlier, and I tried to reframe it by asking her what she would do if she asked a guy on a date, and he replied asking for it to be earlier so he could go out with his boys after. She didn't answer because "she doesn't ask guys out, they ask her out". Anyway, she let me know that she's arguing this because she's graduating in 2 weeks and wanted to spend time with her dance teammates. I told her I understood, but also that she doesn't REALLY want to go on a date then.

She assured me she does, asking if I'm available during the week. We made tentative plans for Sunday night.

After that, I left it alone, but she continued to text me, sometimes double-texting. She was often "bratty", saying "perhaps" she would answer when I texted her Sunday, and that "maybe" she would show up - but she always responded and kept the conversation going.

I REALLY knew this had legs when SHE texted ME Sunday to confirm we were still going out later that night.

Date 1

I picked her up and was surprised to receive not only a hug but also a kiss on the lips. It was just a little peck, but a very good start.

There was a little bit of tension leading up to this because she was nervous about the date itself. I picked a spot that was open until 1AM, was off-campus, low-key, and had a date-night vibe to it. I told her I'd pick her up, but she was initially concerned about drinking and driving. I assured her that I would be fine and that she didn't have to ride with me if she was worried. She assured me that if there was a problem, she would just take an Uber back, so thankfully, that was a minor speed bump that didn't become a real issue.

What almost WAS a real issue was the venue - we arrived and it was DEAD...so dead that the guy told me as soon as I got in that they were having last call now and would be closing soon.

Luckily, I was familiar with the area and knew another spot we could go. Not nearly as good, but would be open late.

We arrived and sat in the outdoor section together and just chatted. I learned that she's from New York, the youngest of 5, and has aspirations of being a dancer for the Boston Celtics. She continued her usual brattiness, but in a more tongue-in-cheek rather than serious way. She also enjoyed cracking jokes at my expense in terms of my age, often in reference to my experience at the same school, "back in my day". It was all in good fun - I laughed, she laughed, and we had a good time.

We each had a couple drinks, grabbed a whole bag of popcorn that the bar was going to toss out, and she and I both did a BJ shot for my birthday (basically balls and shaft are made with whipped cream, going up a glass, ending in a shot, all of which you're supposed to lick off and drink without using your hands). We sprinkled in some light kissing and touching throughout the night, and she seemed quite comfortable with me.

The bar closes, and it's time to take her home, so I walk her back to my truck. We get inside and start making out pretty heavily. It escalates to the point where I'm licking her nipples and have my hand down her pants, fingering her while she's grabbing my d*** through my pants.

After a little bit of this, I suggested that I either park us somewhere more private or come back with her to her place. She suggests her place. The entire drive I'm rubbing her leg, and she's holding my hand while we talk about ideas for Date 2.

I pulled up, parked outside the garage behind her place, and made out with her some more. When I went to turn off the truck, she asked how long I think I'm staying here for. I told her I thought she was inviting me up, to which she replied, "not tonight" and that she wants to "make me wait". I don't push back. I kiss her goodnight, let her out, and start driving home.

While driving, she's still texting me, sending me a pic of her in her body suit that she had on under her jacket, as if to tease me. I tell her I got home safe, and she thanks me for her night in her typical bratty way, saying she "didn't have a horrible time tonight" and that "maybe" she'll see me tomorrow.

 

[BPH]

Date 2

After the success of Date 1, this girl wanted to see me again. She doesn't have class early on Tuesdays, and my nights are free after I finish work and the gym, so the plan is to grab sushi at a spot off-campus and then grab some drinks on campus.

Just like the first night, I picked her up and headed over to our dinner spot. The vibe is very much the same; we're chatting, getting to know each other, sprinkling in some light kissing, flirting, and roasting, and just overall having a good time. Everything was pretty much a repeat of Date 1, just over a little bit of dinner rather than just a few drinks and some popcorn.

The unfortunate part about doing this during the week was that most restaurants close pretty early (at least compared to when I'm finished my work day and workout), so we had to rush, and couldn't spend much time there. Then the plan was to find a drink spot that would be open until 1AM on a weekday.

We arrive at one of the bars that's less likely to be packed with tonies. There's not too much to report here, it's really just the same vibe and conversation at the other spots we've been. We have a couple of ****tails here, and do another slater race of just her and me as a "rematch" of the one we had on Thursday (which I won). Then, eventually, that bar closes too, and it's time to take her home again.

We get in the car, share a little more light kissing, and I drive her back to her same garage.

I shut the car off again, we make out again, and I ask her if she wants me to come inside this time. She's unsure. She's mentioned to me before that she's indecisive, and I definitely don't want to force this decision and have her regret it later. I tell her that I can drop her off here, now, and park my truck at a nearby public lot, then walk back over. She doesn't have any early obligations, and I assure her I wouldn't get in the way of her morning because I would have to leave to get ready for work the next day anyway.

She's still unsure. She doesn't want me to do all that and then change her mind while I'm walking back over. She's leaning towards no, and eventually says, "maybe not tonight". I tell her I understand, but also mention that we really didn't get to spend much time kissing tonight versus last night. She tells me we can do that for a little bit. I suggest we do so in the back seat (I have an extended cab, thank god), to which she agrees.

From there, it's basically the same as night 1; I'm licking her nips, she's grabbing my d***, dry riding me while we make out.

But THIS TIME...this time I don't have to reach over a whole console and finger her under her mostly-on jeans...

This time, she was comfortable enough to let me take her pants off and finger her in my back seat. Now that I can use my right hand (I think I'm better with this one), and her pants weren't there to make it difficult, it was over...

Within minutes, I have this girl squirting all over the place. I made her c** multiple times to the point where she was soaking the seat beneath her. Every time she finished, it only took me a few seconds of concentrated effort to get her to that same point again, and I repeated this several times.

Soon enough, she says, "ok, maybe you can come inside".

So I let her out, quickly park my car, walk back over, and she lets me inside to walk up to her bedroom. I did the same thing I did to her in the car, multiple times. We ended up fu**ing twice, with cuddling and pillow talk sprinkled in between, asking what my availability is for the rest of the week. I found out she's scared of the dark, is extremely ticklish, and unfortunately, lives in an apartment building that hasn't had working air conditioning for the last week or so. After the second round, it was close to 2AM, so I got myself dressed to leave, she walked me to her door, I kissed her goodnight, and walked back to my car to drive home.

She stayed awake to make sure I got home, then went to sleep.

Today we've been texting back and forth, but haven't made plans for Date 3. She likes to use her nails during sex, so my shoulders look like they've been massacred by cats. I'm sure some people hate stuff like that, "battle scars", but personally I enjoy them - it lets me know I'm doing a good job. Additionally, I was absolutely exhausted, having been out drinking for birthday festivities from Thursday all the way through Monday, so it was nice to finally get a little rest today.

And that's the story from start to finish of how I met the 100th woman I've slept with.

There's always room for improvement, but here are what I think are the key takeaways as far as teachable moments:

• Don't be offended or put off by minor resistance. Sometimes this is just screening to see if you're a pus**. Willingness to continue engaging with you despite some level of disagreement is a STRONG indicator of interest. Same with her bratty "maybe", "perhaps", or "old man" comments. She's SAYING those things, but she's still DOING what I wanted her to, and I wasn't bothered by that. I even played into it, saying "oh, you're fun, we're going to get along great"
• Don't become overinvested. I think a big part of why things went so well here was that I was unwilling to schedule my date according to what was most convenient to her. I was prepared to walk away, and I thought she would likely do the same because I was firm on the date timing - so when she didn't, I knew there was potential
• Be flexible, and plan. Date 1 could've been a really weak showing on my part if I didn't have alternatives. Same with Date 2; I knew a couple of bars and dinner spots we could go to, depending on how the timing worked out
• Be a good kisser. Learn to use your tongue; don't shove it down her throat, be rhythmic, include some variety. Nibble and suck on her lips, be playful and give her a light peck and pull away a little so she's the one leaning in wanting more. Just don't be boring
• BE GOOD AT FINGERING. If this story isn't the textbook testimonial for why you should learn this skill, I don't know what is...I changed this woman's mind from a "no" to a "yes" and all it took were a few minutes with 2 fingers. Being able to do something like this while both parties are still mostly clothed is just so powerful. I'm sure this has been a tipping point for several other women in my life as well, and it has never been more apparent than in this story.

I hope you all enjoyed this read and that maybe some of you were able to learn something from it.

Have a good rest of your night.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Hope all the booze makes you a bit more concise

 

[Travel memoir21]

Dude stop wasting so much time on women and getting that self gratifying high that only turns into grief later. Why don't you get on a No Fap semen retention and reading/gym early in the morning routine and try to build up your wealth and Character so you can pick up Quality women later.....I'm talking about places like Eastern Europe, South America, South East Asia etc...build up your wealth and start a side hustle and business brother....stop spending so much so much time on skanks who will not feed your soul.

 

[BPH]

Jesus Christ, I write up this whole thing late at night and of course these 2 are the first to reply to it...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Nice work...if a girl tries that nail sh!t with me, it only means they are taking it in the ass hard with no lube later that night so they can see what real pain feels like

 

[SW15]

You got to the triple digits. That's a major accomplishment.

In February 2011, in the first post of the thread below, you did talk about getting laid "100 times". You were a teenager in high school then. Perhaps you meant 100 different women then or 100 instances of sex with any number of women. I think you were thinking big picture in 2011.

//The Chronicles of BPH\\

The Chronicles of BPH NorweiganDJ's doin it, so I might as well do it. Plus I hear journaling helps your inner game so I guess I'm killing 2 birds with 1 stone. First a little backstory... I'm a 16 year old junior, turning 17 in 2 months, attending a small high school in the state of...

www.sosuave.net

Triple digit notch count is good.

A college cheerleader/dance team member is good for the 100th different woman you've had as a sexual partner.

 

[Clockwerk50]

So what is the conclusion about the age difference, your age, etc?

Love the FR though.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Jesus Christ, I write up this whole thing late at night and of course these 2 are the first to reply to it...

You'd be far more astounded by how swiftly I began taking the piss out of The Oscars this year

 

[BPH]

You got to the triple digits. That's a major accomplishment.

In February 2011, in the first post of the thread below, you did talk about getting laid "100 times". You were a teenager in high school then. Perhaps you meant 100 different women then or 100 instances of sex with any number of women. I think you were thinking big picture in 2011.

//The Chronicles of BPH\\

The Chronicles of BPH NorweiganDJ's doin it, so I might as well do it. Plus I hear journaling helps your inner game so I guess I'm killing 2 birds with 1 stone. First a little backstory... I'm a 16 year old junior, turning 17 in 2 months, attending a small high school in the state of...

www.sosuave.net

Triple digit notch count is good.

A college cheerleader/dance team member is good for the 100th different woman you've had as a sexual partner.

I cringe reading some of the early posts there, especially the OP.

It sounds like I just want to bang anything I could (which, at the time, I'm sure I did), and it sounds as if I have no standards.

So what is the conclusion about the age difference, your age, etc?

Love the FR though.

I think she's further removed from the cliques. She even mentioned on our first date that she doesn't often care what people think. She's part of the dance team, but not in any sorority or other major groups. She's already working on what she's going to be doing after she graduates and is perhaps open to new experiences (like the one she had with me) before she does.

 

[The Duke]

Dude stop wasting so much time on women and getting that self gratifying high that only turns into grief later. Why don't you get on a No Fap semen retention and reading/gym early in the morning routine and try to build up your wealth and Character so you can pick up Quality women later.....I'm talking about places like Eastern Europe, South America, South East Asia etc...build up your wealth and start a side hustle and business brother....stop spending so much so much time on skanks who will not feed your soul.

Meanwhile we are still waiting on a field report from you.

 

[The Duke]

@BPH good job, sounds like a good time. You had fun, and got some sex with a hot girl. I think you pushed for what you wanted(sex) as hard as you should of and remained respectful of her desire. Its always a balancing act.

Only thing I'd add: If you work on increasing the personal connection, lowering her defenses, and being more seductive you won't ever get told NO. You also won't have to be as reliant on alcohol and her getting horny to get sex.

 

[SW15]

I think she's further removed from the cliques. She even mentioned on our first date that she doesn't often care what people think. She's part of the dance team, but not in any sorority or other major groups. She's already working on what she's going to be doing after she graduates and is perhaps open to new experiences (like the one she had with me) before she does.

She is graduating in May. Most friendships from college slowly decline.

I cringe reading some of the early posts there, especially the OP.

That can happen. It seems to me that you had some interest in getting inside 100 different vaginas in 2011. You set a lofty goal in 2011 and achieved it in 2025.

It sounds like I just want to bang anything I could (which, at the time, I'm sure I did), and it sounds as if I have no standards.

You might have felt that way in 2011-2012. You had less experience and a higher sex drive.

At 31, your sex drive likely hasn't slipped that much from 18.

 

[BPH]

Only thing I'd add: If you work on increasing the personal connection, lowering her defenses, and being more seductive you won't ever get told NO. You also won't have to be as reliant on alcohol and her getting horny to get sex.

I'm not sure I fully agree with that. I've had issues before where I built "too much" of a connection and got put into the category as a potential LTR - meaning she withheld sex because she wanted to get to know me better.

I vividly remember this one girl back in college who I picked up during the day off from one of the dating apps to come over and hang out and watch a movie with me. She was enjoying her time with me, but when I went to make a move and started escalating, she stopped me because she "likes me and doesn't want to rush things". I told her I appreciated that, but wasn't looking for anything serious right now.

Her exact words, in response, were: "Oh, well then let's have sex", and that's exactly what we did next.

Sometimes I feel like it helps to try and play towards the fantasy of being a fling, rather than somebody with more potential long-term.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Alright, we've hit the triple digits, and I think this deserves its own story. I recognize this as something of a milestone. I didn't learn seduction to hit this number specifically, but it is a byproduct of learning these skills, coupled with my desire to experience a variety of women.

Some of you may disagree (@self_is_an_illusion ) with this approach, or this volume, so this thread might not be for you. Some things I did right, some things I did wrong, but the purpose of this post is to describe an experience in a way that others may learn something from it.

It WILL be a long read. You do NOT have to read it.

Anyway, let's get into this...

This situation piggybacks off of this thread I drunkenly made: This sh**'s getting old (pun intended)

For the uninitiated, I met a gorgeous girl with 2 of her friends a few minutes before closing time at the local college bar I was bi***ing about when it came to women having a problem with my age during conversations that were otherwise going well.

This girl did NOT have that problem.

I met her close to the end of my night, so I was quite drunk, and details are foggy. I introduced myself to the group and told the one I wanted that I thought she was gorgeous and had to come say hi, before introducing myself to her friends. She's tall, not in any sorority, has a brace on one of her hands from a practice-related injury, and is part of the school's dance team. Truthfully, I don't remember the exact flow of the conversation; we did a slater race (a specific mixed drink that people traditionally chug as a group) with her friends before I focused back on talking to her. I don't recall how it came up, but she didn't have a problem with my age and was interested in seeing me. She wanted to be taken out first, and asked me where I would take her. I picked a nearby spot off-campus, dimly lit and low-key. I invited her to come with me there tomorrow night (Friday) because I will be out in Philadelphia with some friends on Saturday for my birthday.

The thing is, she wanted me to take her out early, around 6PM, and then tried 8PM, when I mentioned both were too early. I suggested 10PM, half-joking that I wanted to take her on a date, not be a pregame to whatever she does later that night afterwards. I got her number and texted her drunkenly a little back-and-forth, basically about the timing of the date and her being interested but not wanting it to be so late. The point I made was that I wanted the date to be how she ended her night, not how she started it. She replied that she thought that should be her decision, whether she starts or ends her night with me. I replied, agreeing, but also said that it's my decision whether to take her out.

I figured this would go nowhere, but I knew this might have some legs when she replied in the morning, continuing the conversation.

She still wanted it earlier, and I tried to reframe it by asking her what she would do if she asked a guy on a date, and he replied asking for it to be earlier so he could go out with his boys after. She didn't answer because "she doesn't ask guys out, they ask her out". Anyway, she let me know that she's arguing this because she's graduating in 2 weeks and wanted to spend time with her dance teammates. I told her I understood, but also that she doesn't REALLY want to go on a date then.

She assured me she does, asking if I'm available during the week. We made tentative plans for Sunday night.

After that, I left it alone, but she continued to text me, sometimes double-texting. She was often "bratty", saying "perhaps" she would answer when I texted her Sunday, and that "maybe" she would show up - but she always responded and kept the conversation going.

I REALLY knew this had legs when SHE texted ME Sunday to confirm we were still going out later that night.

Date 1

I picked her up and was surprised to receive not only a hug but also a kiss on the lips. It was just a little peck, but a very good start.

There was a little bit of tension leading up to this because she was nervous about the date itself. I picked a spot that was open until 1AM, was off-campus, low-key, and had a date-night vibe to it. I told her I'd pick her up, but she was initially concerned about drinking and driving. I assured her that I would be fine and that she didn't have to ride with me if she was worried. She assured me that if there was a problem, she would just take an Uber back, so thankfully, that was a minor speed bump that didn't become a real issue.

What almost WAS a real issue was the venue - we arrived and it was DEAD...so dead that the guy told me as soon as I got in that they were having last call now and would be closing soon.

Luckily, I was familiar with the area and knew another spot we could go. Not nearly as good, but would be open late.

We arrived and sat in the outdoor section together and just chatted. I learned that she's from New York, the youngest of 5, and has aspirations of being a dancer for the Boston Celtics. She continued her usual brattiness, but in a more tongue-in-cheek rather than serious way. She also enjoyed cracking jokes at my expense in terms of my age, often in reference to my experience at the same school, "back in my day". It was all in good fun - I laughed, she laughed, and we had a good time.

We each had a couple drinks, grabbed a whole bag of popcorn that the bar was going to toss out, and she and I both did a BJ shot for my birthday (basically balls and shaft are made with whipped cream, going up a glass, ending in a shot, all of which you're supposed to lick off and drink without using your hands). We sprinkled in some light kissing and touching throughout the night, and she seemed quite comfortable with me.

The bar closes, and it's time to take her home, so I walk her back to my truck. We get inside and start making out pretty heavily. It escalates to the point where I'm licking her nipples and have my hand down her pants, fingering her while she's grabbing my d*** through my pants.

After a little bit of this, I suggested that I either park us somewhere more private or come back with her to her place. She suggests her place. The entire drive I'm rubbing her leg, and she's holding my hand while we talk about ideas for Date 2.

I pulled up, parked outside the garage behind her place, and made out with her some more. When I went to turn off the truck, she asked how long I think I'm staying here for. I told her I thought she was inviting me up, to which she replied, "not tonight" and that she wants to "make me wait". I don't push back. I kiss her goodnight, let her out, and start driving home.

While driving, she's still texting me, sending me a pic of her in her body suit that she had on under her jacket, as if to tease me. I tell her I got home safe, and she thanks me for her night in her typical bratty way, saying she "didn't have a horrible time tonight" and that "maybe" she'll see me tomorrow.

Sounds eerily similar to an experience I had except I didn't get to a date 2 since she was leaving the next day

Anyways, of all of them, what percentage would you say came from bars/clubs, streets, and warm approaches? And how long has it taken you to get to this point?

 

[BPH]

Sounds eerily similar to an experience I had except I didn't get to a date 2 since she was leaving the next day

Anyways, of all of them, what percentage would you say came from bars/clubs, streets, and warm approaches? And how long has it taken you to get to this point?

Probably about half of them came from approaches in some capacity. Whether at a bar, party, college class, at the beach while on vacation, etc. Maybe more than half.

A decent chunk also came from the dating apps since I do have the big 3.

I can't think of many other sources, but I do know that very few, if any, came from social circle game, a small handful came from the gym, and none came from any of my workplaces. However, I would argue that the gym is still a cold approach.

As far as how long it's taken, I lost my virginity at 17, maybe 1-2 months before my 18th birthday. So that would've been very close to exactly 13 years, which comes out to an average of 7.7 new women per year.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Probably about half of them came from approaches in some capacity. Whether at a bar, party, college class, at the beach while on vacation, etc. Maybe more than half.

A decent chunk also came from the dating apps since I do have the big 3.

I can't think of many other sources, but I do know that very few, if any, came from social circle game, a small handful came from the gym, and none came from any of my workplaces. However, I would argue that the gym is still a cold approach.

As far as how long it's taken, I lost my virginity at 17, maybe 1-2 months before my 18th birthday. So that would've been very close to exactly 13 years, which comes out to an average of 7.7 new women per year.

Good work. Takes balls and dedication, something most men don't have

 

[BPH]

Good work. Takes balls and dedication, something most men don't have

It's really just wanting to do better than I'd be doing if I took whoever came my way.

 

[BeExcellent]

Well done!

 

[Gamisch]

Congrats bro.

One tenth of the final goal!