"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lower standards?

captain55

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i have quite a few hot women in my life at the moment but none I’m really interested in . One is a 9 but she’s a single mom and I don’t want to date a chick with a kid. One legit 8 but she doesn’t have the natural phat ass that I like. One is a 7 with an amazing ass but she’s just not hot enough facially for me to lock down. I require an 8/10 face minimum with a big natural ass....obviously this combination is hard to find. But I’ve pulled and dated this before so the way I look at it is if I did it once I can do it again.

For me sometimes I feel like I’m entitled to take a hot chick out just because I’m being greedy but now I’m seriously considering not even bothering unless I’m really interested. For you other guys with high standards I have a simple question for you.

If the girl is not a chick that you are proud to show off in public or genuinely interested in....do you still pursue?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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No.

Women does most of the pursuing, you just got to notice it and then decide which one interest you more.
 

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If the girl is not a chick that you are proud to show off in public or genuinely interested in....do you still pursue?
Girls aren't just a trophy you show off in public dude. They might give you a social boost (it's fun going to a party with a girl you know is cute for example) but at the same time that shouldn't ever be the primary reason for dating someone.

Also as I say in almost all these threads, it depends what the purpose of the dating is.

If you want sex with someone and that's it, it doesn't matter if they have every perfect trait you'd want in an ideal partner. If you're looking for an LTR on the other hand, you need to be more picky about who you date.
 

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i have quite a few hot women in my life at the moment but none I’m really interested in . One is a 9 but she’s a single mom and I don’t want to date a chick with a kid. One legit 8 but she doesn’t have the natural phat ass that I like. One is a 7 with an amazing ass but she’s just not hot enough facially for me to lock down. I require an 8/10 face minimum with a big natural ass....obviously this combination is hard to find. But I’ve pulled and dated this before so the way I look at it is if I did it once I can do it again.

For me sometimes I feel like I’m entitled to take a hot chick out just because I’m being greedy but now I’m seriously considering not even bothering unless I’m really interested. For you other guys with high standards I have a simple question for you.

If the girl is not a chick that you are proud to show off in public or genuinely interested in....do you still pursue?
There was a time when I was less experienced that I did. I used those girls to gain knowledge,better my skills, and have sex with. These days I have better things to do with my time.

Certainly you should never date solely for looks, but that girl is a reflection of you. Whenever I see an attractive guy with a girl less than him I question his manhood. Its like the girl gets a relationship plus a hot guy. This makes the score 2 to 0 in my eyes.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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