"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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wootapotky

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I've tried saying hi to a couple people when they walk by but my voice is so damn deep and low they can never hear me. Even if I'm right next to them they sometimes can't hear me. But when I'm talking to my family I talk with the same voice level and they can hear me fine. Also, at dances I've gone to when I'm slow dancing I have to yell for the girl to even hear me, and even then she sometimes can't hear me. And then when the louder music comes on there's no reason for me to even say anything because she's not going to hear me. Is there a way you can make your voice louder?

I forgot to say, I've been slightly more outgoing, and I've said some things that would have been funny, but then the person doesn't hear what I said, and goes what did you say, but then the joke is dead by then. Do I have to result to yelling for people to hear me?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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InsidiousNstinct

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Im the same way, except my voice is VERY deep. When ever your by yourself and noone is around just practice yelling (not screaming) It will help raise your voice level some or atleast it did mine. Just don't go around yelling at everyone :p

I talk with the same voice level and they can hear me fine.
This is because their your family and their use to you talking that way. Some stranger isn't going to be use to it.
 

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Your voice isn't low, your just pushing it. You've adjusted to it, but it's actually negatively effecting your projection and tone. Look up speech pathology in the bookstore and online.

What you need to do is learn to bring your voice out of your throat to it's proper level.
 

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Originally posted by R3N3GAD3
Your voice isn't low, your just pushing it. You've adjusted to it, but it's actually negatively effecting your projection and tone. Look up speech pathology in the bookstore and online.

What you need to do is learn to bring your voice out of your throat to it's proper level.
How can you say his voice isnt low?? Once my brother and i were talking with my uncle and our mom with in talking distance and they didnt hear a word we said but we heard each just fine. All you have to do is just talk a little louder and youll be good. Having a deep voice is cool cause girls think its hot and people think it sounds cool for some reason.
 

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i'm the same. deep voice = powerful as long as people can hear what you're saying.

in loud atmospheres the deepness of your voice is lost to surroundings. in these places, try raising the pitch of your voice a little or stand closer to the person you're talking to. if you can, isolate with the person to a quiet spot. if you're raising the pitch of your voice, only do it a little, cuz you don't want to sound like your typical campman

fingers wrote a post called "empower your voice". i used his main exercises and it deepened my voice even more. but he said in it that your perfect pitch can be high; it doesn't have to be as low as possible.

he also recommended singing along with songs when you're on your own. prevents you talking in a monotone voice
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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