"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sorry im going to brief since im writing from my phone . I was gaming a femail bartender and she said I speak too low there was music playing but I do think I speak low. My voice is deep this doesnt help either so how do I speak louder without coming across like im yelling. Once again written from my phone and advice would be helpful thnx
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Surely this is a perfect excuse to suggest to her that you go somewhere more quiet and private? You could have used it to your advantage.
 

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Secret_To_Success said:
Sorry im going to brief since im writing from my phone . I was gaming a femail bartender and she said I speak too low there was music playing but I do think I speak low. My voice is deep this doesnt help either so how do I speak louder without coming across like im yelling. Once again written from my phone and advice would be helpful thnx
have fun and dont try not to yell or not to speak low just be in your body
if you like some material from a "guru" [lol] in rsd's "natural tim" he says that we all have imagined volume knob in our head, so imagine that someone is 3 steps back away from you when you talk to him/her and you will have louder voice
dont try to talk to the person make your voice go behind the person

BE EXCELLENT AND :rockon: DUDES
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dude, I have a low voice and women LOVE it. If it's loud, I just physically move them to a quieter area.

I have this joke I make about my low voice, I tell women I'm thinking of becoming a country singer with my hit song being called "You've Got A Pretty Mouth, Boy" (I can't stand country music).

Trust me, you should be feeling sorry for the guys who have higher pitched voices.
 
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