"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Low self esteem=gf sabotaging relationship?

jigga23

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Ive been with my gf for over a year now just about. Sometimes she seems like she has high self esteem and at other times and has low self esteem. It is true she tries to sabotage the relationship sometimes by doing and saying stupid sh*t. Its like she is so scared sometimes like when it comes to her friends and me she will always take her friends side because obvisiouly she is worried that something will happen and she needs to keep her friends tight with her. No problem with her being with her friends but its obvious she does that cause shes scared of the relationship sometimes. It is hell living with a girl like that up and down like a freakin merry go round. I honestly want to pick up and leave sometimes (I live with her) but I dont know how i guess cause of her my emotions go up and down for her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OneArmDeeJay

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Originally posted by jigga23
she will always take her friends side because obvisiouly she is worried that something will happen and she needs to keep her friends tight with her.
Relationships come and go but friendship last forever.

You don’t burn bridges that you want to cross back.

Originally posted by jigga23
shes scared of the relationship sometimes.
Scared of what?

Scared of you?

I think there is something more to it and your missing it or she’s a crazy b1tch.

It is hell living with a girl

Yes it is that’s why we tell you not to live with your GF.

She should live with you when your married that’s it.

Kick the b1tch out and save yourself some headache.

If you can’t figure out what’s wrong and you can’t have decent communication with you GF then it’s time to revaluate your situation and get rid of her. It’s obvious your not ready for one so move on.
 

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She is testing whether or not you are a real man and it sounds like you are failing.

Read 'The Way of the Superior Man' and you will find the answer to your question.
 
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