Ive been with my gf for over a year now just about. Sometimes she seems like she has high self esteem and at other times and has low self esteem. It is true she tries to sabotage the relationship sometimes by doing and saying stupid sh*t. Its like she is so scared sometimes like when it comes to her friends and me she will always take her friends side because obvisiouly she is worried that something will happen and she needs to keep her friends tight with her. No problem with her being with her friends but its obvious she does that cause shes scared of the relationship sometimes. It is hell living with a girl like that up and down like a freakin merry go round. I honestly want to pick up and leave sometimes (I live with her) but I dont know how i guess cause of her my emotions go up and down for her.