Got a 23 year old cutie plate I was spinning a few months ago, one night I was at her place and she drops the "I want to be exclusive" line, now this is just as I'm wrapping up to leave and caught me off guard (rookie mistake, I know) I stammer something kinda lame, say we'll talk about it and leave. I was out of town on business for a few weeks, busy after that, long story short kinda cut off contact with her for a few weeks. Last week she hits me up with "so are we just not going to talk anymore?", I tell her I've been busy, we go to lunch Saturday, she looks cute but doesn't seem too engaged or talkative, at the end I move to kiss her, not much spark there from her either, I tell her maybe we'll hang out this week. We text a bit Sunday I ask to come over she doesn't respond till Monday with "I didn't see your message" and doesn't really play along. At this stage I'm not too committed, I can walk away if need be but if it's sh!t test I'd rather blast through it and get back to the fvcking. Thoughts and suggestions?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Low interest or mind games
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Its pretty simple man....she wants you all to herself. You stalled and now she's pulling back to avoid getting hurt.
Contrary to sosuave bro-logic, the majority of women will eventually demand a "commitment" even if you're only seeing each other casually. If you can't give that to her, its no more free samples for you. Time to let her go.
Contrary to sosuave bro-logic, the majority of women will eventually demand a "commitment" even if you're only seeing each other casually. If you can't give that to her, its no more free samples for you. Time to let her go.
Sent her a text: "You seem different, do you want to keep seeing each other?"
The tactic is to just cut the bullsh!t, any reply from her other than "No" is a "Yes" and no matter how coy she tries to be, she's no match for me and my skillset, plus she loves when I lay the pipe on her :rockon:
If she does say no, fine, number deleted, out of my life. I already got a lunch date with a SMILF for Thursday (Hell yeah we're splitting the check)
Her reply 2 hours later: "I was distant, I thought we were moving on, I still want to see you"
How about them apples?
I believe the moral of the story here is if you're going to go NC on a woman, make it a clean break, one that SHE KNOWS she'll have to cross.
The next date is going to be a pump and dump just to prove a point.
The tactic is to just cut the bullsh!t, any reply from her other than "No" is a "Yes" and no matter how coy she tries to be, she's no match for me and my skillset, plus she loves when I lay the pipe on her :rockon:
If she does say no, fine, number deleted, out of my life. I already got a lunch date with a SMILF for Thursday (Hell yeah we're splitting the check)
Her reply 2 hours later: "I was distant, I thought we were moving on, I still want to see you"
How about them apples?
I believe the moral of the story here is if you're going to go NC on a woman, make it a clean break, one that SHE KNOWS she'll have to cross.
The next date is going to be a pump and dump just to prove a point.
"The next date is going to be a pump and dump just to prove a point." - what point are you proving (to yourself)? She likes you and wanted to have a relationship with you, you obviously don't so why not man up and tell her what you think / want instead of showing her that you may still want to move things forward and then pull the rug out from under her after you get some ass....??? Just a **** move on your part. Her behavior was pretty normal and not an insult / game playing. She thought you weren't interested and didn't want to get hurt so she backed off.
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I am with yuppaz here, if you do not want to be with her then cut it off and get on that soccer mom lol. She is clearly way more into you then you are her.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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This guy nailed it right here. Show some class & respect for others dude. You mention how "she's no match for your skillset".....hmmm really? Talking about "cut the bullsh!t"....man up and let her know what you are really after.yuppaz said:
Sounds like she wants a relationship and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't mind fuk a decent girl just so your needs get met. If you got so much skill as you say, you should have many other plates going to meet those needs.