"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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low interest ... any chance?

t510

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Hi
Is there any chance of hooking up with a girl I went out with once that has signs of low interest. We went out a couple weeks ago and she said she had a really good time and said she she would like to go out again but never contacts me. She replys to my texts (I text rarely like once a week) but most the time her responses are pretty cold ... She never mentions hanging out ... For example today I asked what shes doing today and she wrote back "I got called into work. I'm on call :("
It's really frustrating and usually a girl that is interested will make an effort to show that... I've only really asked her out for a second date once (today)...
I'm pretty busy the next couple weeks so maybe I should just lay low and she if she contacts me? Or I could put some pressure on and say look I'm really busy the next couple weeks do you want to try to schedule sometime...
which one is better?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In b4 somebody says "spin more plates."
 

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Any additional details like should I tell her I am going out of town for a week ( I am) . Will she disappear if I just stop contacting her for abit?
 

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t510 said:
Any additional details like should I tell her I am going out of town for a week ( I am) .
Seriously though dude, do you REALLY think that a chick that admiited to having low interest in you actually gives a f#ck that you're going out of town for a week?

t510 said:
Will she disappear if I just stop contacting her for abit?
If she does, what bearing will it have on your life?
 

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Ok I agree.

Would you even bother asking her out again
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you're in scarcity you start to rationalize foolish behavior. Don't go down that road. Start spinning plates. Talk to more girls. You will understand what effect that will have on you.
 

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t510 said:
Ok I agree.

Would you even bother asking her out again
Rex only gives a chick one chance to reject him.
 

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Seriously, OP has been here since 2011 and is asking this question?

Here is an example of UNINFORMED.
 

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why would she even bothering answering my texts... and seems bummed she can't hang out...
 

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She answers your texts for one of a few reasons:

1. She has low interest but likes attention which means you are friendzoned
2. There's another guy that she's more into so she's stringing you along just in case
3. She doesn't want to completely blow you off so she answers, but gives you nothing to work with

Go no contact. No texts. No emails. No calls. See if she reaches out in a week or two. If she does, set a time to meet up. There are countless threads on this type of female behavior. Read Nismo's "your princess is in another castle" threads. Solid info there. Oh, and talk to other girls. You'll soon forget all about this one.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=191182

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192273
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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