I am trying to get a low self esteem girl. what do I have to do differently to get her and to keep her once I get her? I did a search on low self esteem chicks and it seems like they are trouble is this true and if so why?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Low Esteem woman
- Thread starter itstough
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Genghis Juan
Senior Don Juan
In my experience, low self-esteem girls, commonly look for guys to use as an emotional tampon. On dates, they will complain about how crappy their lives are, etc.
Try to keep the dates light and fun as possible, to hopefully bring up their self-esteem and interest in you. Hopefully the low self-esteem is a temporary thing. On the other hand, if its a permanent feature of their character, dating them could be a waste of time, because low SE girls, tend to date guys for the sake of being with a guy. In other words, they will date guys they are not interested in, wasting your time and money, simply because they don't want to be alone.
Another bad aspect of low SE girls, is often times, they end up hooking up with the worst kinds of bastards. So even if you come accross to her as a suave smooth DJ, she may think she is out of your league, not good enough for you, and ditch you for some loser.
Yet another bad aspect of low SE girls, like JSH said, is once you land them, they become SUPER clingy, and always want to be around you, and talking to you on the phone.
But, on a positive note, maybe her low SE is not that low, or is temporary, so once you hook up with her, she becomes more balanced.
Good luck
Try to keep the dates light and fun as possible, to hopefully bring up their self-esteem and interest in you. Hopefully the low self-esteem is a temporary thing. On the other hand, if its a permanent feature of their character, dating them could be a waste of time, because low SE girls, tend to date guys for the sake of being with a guy. In other words, they will date guys they are not interested in, wasting your time and money, simply because they don't want to be alone.
Another bad aspect of low SE girls, is often times, they end up hooking up with the worst kinds of bastards. So even if you come accross to her as a suave smooth DJ, she may think she is out of your league, not good enough for you, and ditch you for some loser.
Yet another bad aspect of low SE girls, like JSH said, is once you land them, they become SUPER clingy, and always want to be around you, and talking to you on the phone.
But, on a positive note, maybe her low SE is not that low, or is temporary, so once you hook up with her, she becomes more balanced.
Good luck
im not so sure about low self esteem girls that are insecure.
i met this girl last semester and broke the ice , begain talking to her. thought she was a pretty nice and cool girl to know.
this semester i have class w/her again. and lately i noticed she's not as nice as i thought she was. she's asked me how work is going and telling me to hook her up with a job. telling me how she isnt trying hard enough etc.
she doesnt even talk to me much anymore and i realized she's more of a *****. she is a ***** basically.
just be aware, that these girls are very unpredictable and you should stay away from these girls.
they can get hot N cold on you like nothing. and they will place their needs #1 over others.
i met this girl last semester and broke the ice , begain talking to her. thought she was a pretty nice and cool girl to know.
this semester i have class w/her again. and lately i noticed she's not as nice as i thought she was. she's asked me how work is going and telling me to hook her up with a job. telling me how she isnt trying hard enough etc.
she doesnt even talk to me much anymore and i realized she's more of a *****. she is a ***** basically.
just be aware, that these girls are very unpredictable and you should stay away from these girls.
they can get hot N cold on you like nothing. and they will place their needs #1 over others.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
diplomatic_lies
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Don't be so lazy and get a normal girl.
Low-esteem girls are a downer. I dated one, she was easy to f*ck, but her attitude pissed me off. Even after sex she'd say stupid sh*t like "Oh did I do it right? I must be such a terrible girl in bed" bla bla bla. Geez, if theres ever a turnoff, its being a downer.
Low-esteem girls are a downer. I dated one, she was easy to f*ck, but her attitude pissed me off. Even after sex she'd say stupid sh*t like "Oh did I do it right? I must be such a terrible girl in bed" bla bla bla. Geez, if theres ever a turnoff, its being a downer.
PuertoRican_Lover
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The question you should ask yourself is "Why does she hold her self in such a low esteem" This is very important! Once you know why, then you may decide that you don't want her. Talk to her casuallly and find out in an indirect way.
If she was raped or abused in the past - then this is obviously not good for you to deal with such emotional scars!!
If she was raped or abused in the past - then this is obviously not good for you to deal with such emotional scars!!
Thats a good point PuertoRicanLover. I did wonder I know she is real real skinny and laugh if you want but she is also missing some teeth. Which are a couple things I THINK mean abuse?Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
The question you should ask yourself is "Why does she hold her self in such a low esteem" This is very important! Once you know why, then you may decide that you don't want her. Talk to her casuallly and find out in an indirect way.
If she was raped or abused in the past - then this is obviously not good for you to deal with such emotional scars!!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ToP DoN
Banned
low self esteem girls
first of all...what the fvck is wrong with you...why the fvck do u want a low self esteem girl....damn you must be pathetic...
if you want a low self esteem girl...the you got to be a low self esteem guy....
get some help ....
first of all...what the fvck is wrong with you...why the fvck do u want a low self esteem girl....damn you must be pathetic...
if you want a low self esteem girl...the you got to be a low self esteem guy....
get some help ....
Re: low self esteem girls
Maybe I don't fuxking care ever fuxking think of that. Live you fuxking life the way you want don't fuxking butt into mine. "how do I get a low self esteem woman" was the fuxking question!Originally posted by ToP DoN
first of all...what the fvck is wrong with you...why the fvck do u want a low self esteem girl....damn you must be pathetic...
if you want a low self esteem girl...the you got to be a low self esteem guy....
get some help ....
ToP DoN
Banned
i told u buddy
get a low esteem...shiet if u want one...why dont u just buy one from asia...fvck
get a low esteem...shiet if u want one...why dont u just buy one from asia...fvck
PlayerSupreme
Banned
1. Be a jerk and she will find you.
2. Keep being a jerk and she will love you.
3. You sound like you have some control issues...I recognize the similairities. Here's another clue. Learn to control yourself before you try controlling another.
2. Keep being a jerk and she will love you.
3. You sound like you have some control issues...I recognize the similairities. Here's another clue. Learn to control yourself before you try controlling another.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
InLawsHateMe
Master Don Juan
They all have low self esteem Gus....
Incase no one has made this clear to you bro, but.... wanting to get with a low self esteem chic, is like playing russian roulette... AVOID AT ALL COST!!! ....if you want to make them feel better, you can't, if you want to help them, you can't, want to be their knight in shining armor? Forget it... these type of chics are nothing but trouble... they are so incomplete, on so many levels. Why would you even want one, why not just get a bat and beat yourself in the head instead? ....look for women, who have at least gotten over some of their insecurities, who, at the very least, the very very least, like themselves. Cuz if they don't like themselves, who the hell are they going to like?
Incase no one has made this clear to you bro, but.... wanting to get with a low self esteem chic, is like playing russian roulette... AVOID AT ALL COST!!! ....if you want to make them feel better, you can't, if you want to help them, you can't, want to be their knight in shining armor? Forget it... these type of chics are nothing but trouble... they are so incomplete, on so many levels. Why would you even want one, why not just get a bat and beat yourself in the head instead? ....look for women, who have at least gotten over some of their insecurities, who, at the very least, the very very least, like themselves. Cuz if they don't like themselves, who the hell are they going to like?