"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have to say, LS tends to coddle the female gender over there as of late. Lately though, they've been getting on to me about posting about online dating experiences and begrudging the female gender that has flaked out or whatever.

This one person posted about his experience with online dating and how a waste of time it is and how women have it easier.

I said something like "Yeah, I saw an overweight woman say, 'I got a few extra pounds on me, so if you don't like thicker women, don't waste my time!'" Then in the next breath..she said, "I like athletic, toned men..." and I mentioned this in a post (response to the OP) and said how quite double standard it was and that this woman should know her place when finding someone more equally matched to her physically.

They booted me, figured that the post was berating to women, when it was a legitimate critique. Apparently, I had done this one too many times, but I can never tell if I'm doing it or not, because I'm not personally berating any members of the forum, but online dating and the behaviors of those behind it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Back in my AFC days i actually joined that forum and posted about my BPD ex, (this was in the first couple of months knowing her)

And basically i posted a laundry list of red flags and asked if it was a good idea to be involved with her etc

They were all "yeah man she just needs a kind, understanding, loving partner who won't judge her"

So i went with that.

6 months later i wash up on the shores of sosuave a broken man.

LOL
 

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Apparently, they have this so-called "berating policy" that is left ambiguous. I thought the "berating" was limited to taking personal shots at an actual forum poster...but apparently, it expands to the posters online dating subjects...that are women.
 

blind_one

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The more I hear about this site , the more I am assured that it is full of cancer. Leave it and never look back.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Believe it or not, they actually merged what they thought was something I had already posted about in the past and merged THAT post with it. I was like "Oh okay, didnt' realize I did that." and I was thinking that maybe my duplicate post was a few weeks ago.

But the idiots merged it with a post similar in nature from TWO YEARS ago! lol

"Sorry, you posted about this topic before...so we'll merge it with the topic from 2 years ago and bump it"

I get the feeling the moderators don't work for a living.
 

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I was in that forum a couple of months ago and they did not treat me bad somehow, mainly the guys. However, I would agree that having a lot of women there is always the recipe for disaster when it comes to advice towards men.
 

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POF used to be that way as well, when they had volunteer moderators. The women would get upset at the male posters, and tell on the omderators and would have then banned from the forums simply becaus they didn't agree with them.
 

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I have to say, LS tends to coddle the female gender over there as of late. Lately though, they've been getting on to me about posting about online dating experiences and begrudging the female gender that has flaked out or whatever.

This one person posted about his experience with online dating and how a waste of time it is and how women have it easier.

I said something like "Yeah, I saw an overweight woman say, 'I got a few extra pounds on me, so if you don't like thicker women, don't waste my time!'" Then in the next breath..she said, "I like athletic, toned men..." and I mentioned this in a post (response to the OP) and said how quite double standard it was and that this woman should know her place when finding someone more equally matched to her physically.

They booted me, figured that the post was berating to women, when it was a legitimate critique. Apparently, I had done this one too many times, but I can never tell if I'm doing it or not, because I'm not personally berating any members of the forum, but online dating and the behaviors of those behind it.
Truth is the new hate speech.

You dared speak your mind and rock the PC boat.
 

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Back in my AFC days i actually joined that forum and posted about my BPD ex, (this was in the first couple of months knowing her)

And basically i posted a laundry list of red flags and asked if it was a good idea to be involved with her etc

They were all "yeah man she just needs a kind, understanding, loving partner who won't judge her"

So i went with that.

6 months later i wash up on the shores of sosuave a broken man.

LOL
But as time here grows and knowledge increases you have shown humpty dumpty can be put back together afterall.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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But as time here grows and knowledge increases you have shown humpty dumpty can be put back together afterall.
Oh for sure, alls well that ends well.

But all im saying is that site is canceraids in terms of advice
 

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Love Shack seems like a great place to get sh*t tested and see how strong your frame is.

I need to make an account over there.
 

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Yet people complain about the mods here. Geez. :D

That place was horrible. Also, Infern0, glad you washed up here instead of some of those "other" sites...
 

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One more thing to add: there is this other forum that is called enotalone, probably some of you guys might have heard of it. I went there when I broke up with my girlfriend. They absolutely made me feel so horrible for even trying to save my relationship. Like, I was absolutely in pain and the only thing they could say was "she better leave you and she did good to leave you cause you're a controlling macho man playing games on her. We wonder why she did not leave you before". Just furthered my feelings of guilt and made me feel more like ****.

The difference between SS and other forums is that here people point out the bull**** of the girl and your bull****. On forums like LS or ENA, they demonize you for being the big, bad man while the girl is the hurt princess EVEN IF SHE LEFT YOU lol
 

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2 years ago when i was dating an NPD/BPD girl (before i knew what a cluster b was) i was searching the internet for dating and relationship advice. Loveshack was my first point of call and i stuck around their forum. A few months later my heart and soul was being extracted through my A Hole and i ended up on a forum for abused Men going through severe PTSD lol.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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