Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Templeton

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Yeah seems a little odd to me too Alpha. Good insight as always, you should post here more often mate. Regards.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks for the complement Templeton.

Originally posted by OddTech
I am what people called "skinny fat." That means I am skinny but I still have some love handles. I was like wise mage and I wanted to lose the love handles.
I can relate to that. When I was skinny with not that much fat around my waist (67kg at 9% bf) my obliques poked out because my my back wasn't that wide proportionatly. (Actually in hind sight they weren't that bad compared to now but I wasn't happy with them at the time).

Now I've got a good V shape but I've still got love handles simply because I'm carrying a 30lb tyre of fat around my waist (I'm now 114kg at about 25% bf). If I lost the 30lb tyre (which I am slowly working on - lost about 15lb in the last 6 month) I think I would finally have my love handle problem beat.

I think the solution is both low body fat and wide back V shape. Just one or the other doesn't work (I know from experience I've tried both but not together). I don't think wise_mage is going to get any where with the V shape thing unless he increases his back size; I think it very unlikely it is too big if he's at 61kg.

If wise mage looked like my pic below then I think he'd have a point (I've certainly got a problem with love handles but in my case it is just 30lb of fat that needs to be lost by plain old self discipline).

http://f2.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/donjuan2862/lst2?.tok=bcLN0FSBUct8LBUG&.dir=/My+Photos&.src=ph

edited to change link - if it doesn't work don't worry your not missing much just a picture of a fat guys back with a great V shape (down to my waist) but which is then completely ruined by massive love handles bulging out.
 
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