"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Loud Bars

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So I deiced to try some night game and hit a few bars downtown. I actually made an approach in one of them but I ran into the issue of the atmosphere loudness. The music and chatter from the people made the conversation difficult without shouting.
The conversation went like this...
Me: *tap* "Hey do you know any other good bars around?"
Girl: "Bars? There are bars all around just pick one"
Me: "I am looking a bar with less energy. I need to hear myself thing sometimes"
Girl: "I dont know they are all the same"
At this point I i realized I was not so much hearing her as I was reading her lips and interpretation her body language. I was not sure where to take the conversation to lead to an easier conversation so I droped it.
Do you guys run into this problem. What is your approach in this situation? Do you only patron bars that are conversation level?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Atom Smasher

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I’ve always had a real problem with this, especially because I lost a lot of hearing as a little kid with ear infections.

For most of my adult life I’ve had difficulty hearing people whenever there’s a “white noise” type sound in the background. This can be rushing water, or a restaurant’s background chatter, or music.

I’ve been out of the bar scene for a long time, but I remember doing a lot of lip reading back then. I remember thinking how uncomfortable it was and how it wasn’t worth it. I found quieter venues to solve the problem. I always hated bars and clubs anyway because of the low quality women there.
 

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Observe super carefully, chicks get really close to say something. Back in 2010 I was the hit, I guess only American in the town, and I got hit on in the club by someone who knew. They wanted me to go dancing and sht, which I do not. They get really close, right in your ear, tits real close to you, and yell in your ear.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You walk up and talk right in their ear, and get straight to the point, they know what time it is. Introduce yourself and go straight for the number... no time for all that back and forth in the club
 

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I was thinking next time I will ask if she knows any quite bars or someplace where I hear myself think. Maybe get her outside or to a dead zone.
I would try more day game but I have yet to good sources with attractive women.
 
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