"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lost temper on girlfriend.

Paradiddle

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Has there been any incident when you had lost your temper on your girlfriend but you instantly regretted? It happened to me yesterday. A minor situation which I could have dealt with in a nonchalant way escalated into me reacting like any beta would have done. She said she was sorry but my problem here is that I feel like an ass whenever I remember yesterday's incident. How do I deal with this? How do comfort myself and not repeat this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Focal core

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Anger is a passionate feelings same as love, without anger will be there peace? No.. So forget about it.
 

lamath

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Has there been any incident when you had lost your temper on your girlfriend but you instantly regretted? It happened to me yesterday. A minor situation which I could have dealt with in a nonchalant way escalated into me reacting like any beta would have done. She said she was sorry but my problem here is that I feel like an ass whenever I remember yesterday's incident. How do I deal with this? How do comfort myself and not repeat this?
Happens to everyone
I consider myself level headed and seldom lose my temper, but i had some ex gf that had my number on this.
Like i said before drama and craziness is contagious if this happens too often, it might be time to call it quit on relationship.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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highSpeed

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Don't argue with women - Learn to be dismissive.

That's how.
I'm just coming on to that skill now. 45 and I'm just now coming on to that skill, I'm disapointed in myself.
 

Cckybold

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I only lost temper to those gf that I have lost interest or they try to manipulate me
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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highSpeed

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Don't feel bad, it took me as long to learn. Better later than never.
I know, I know but I wasted so much relationship value by getting dragged into a woman's emotions. How could I not have learned earlier that they are extremely whimsical? One minute they feel this way, the next they feel another way and for men mostly, it's purpose that drives the train. For women, it's emotion that drives the train. Emotion should always be the caboose on the train.
 

glass half full

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highSpeed- I think many of us men here probably lived our life not knowing any better...my mom was 1st gen feminist, ruled the house, I wasn't taught how to be a man in life. Feminism has screwed us for a long time. Now we have sites like this one, wish we did when I was a teen Lol.
 
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