"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lost Set Last Night After Too Much Wine

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I had a 3rd date with a girl last night who I am very interested in. We hooked up afterwards and I lost all common sense and said to her "I really like you a lot" to which she responded "you're drunk" ! After she left I asked if she got home okay and she said she did and had a good time. I proceeded to say we should try to hang out this weekend and she didn't respond, probably because she went to bed, but I haven't heard from her yet today. I am worried about showing too much interest and letting her see my cards so to speak. I need to keep my mouth shut when I'm drinking! How can I recover from this? I am planning on not saying anything until she does, I'm so mad I may have messed up major progress with my drunk mouth last night. Frustrating.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think I'm going to have to. Her interest has dropped dramatically since I did this. So pissed.
 
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Just for informational purposes, a 'set' is a girl or group of girls that you have approached and are currently talking to. This was a date or day 2.

There's nothing wrong with admitting you like a girl; in fact I think it's better to state your intent than to do nothing. I'm not sure what you define as 'hooked up' but you probably came off a little needy with the post-date antics.

The only time you should be texting a girl is when you're arranging a meetup, or trying to find her right before said meetup. Which means you shouldn't be talking to her more than once a week. That's right...once a week. Which means you need to get more girls.

For the simple fact that you're worried about her non-reply and dissecting every little move you made, combined with your hurriedness to meet up with her again (Wed and then Fri/Sat), my guess is that this is the only girl you're currently doing anything with.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think what I meant to say was my "frame" possibly, thanks for the correction. I have a good amount of girls trying to talk to me, I am very picky myself and did like that particular girl and prefer to spend my time/money with someone who I feel chemistry with and am very attracted to. I see the mistakes that I made in the moment and I definitely came off too eager to hang out again. I backed off and got a long text from her about how much she likes me and it scares her but she doesn't want anything serious right now because she's going to be working & in grad school at the end of the month hence extremely busy. I half believe it, but I think I also messed up. Lesson learned.
 
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