I recently lost the first joint on my pointer finger on my left hand (I'm left handed) in a woodworking accident. Doctors were unable to reattach it. Also, it wasn't just a clean cut, I have a scar on the finger it happened to. I was wondering if it will hurt my game/chances with women? I am really worrying about it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lost part of my finger
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Bible_Belt
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It is what you make of it.
LeviathanIYG
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Badboy from badboylifestyle.com one of the best seduction coaches out today got shot in the head when he was younger. This left him permanently disabled he can not move his left arm and left leg at the same time.
He picks up more than you could possibly imagine.
So to answer your question no it won’t effect you at all. Unless you let it effect you.
He picks up more than you could possibly imagine.
So to answer your question no it won’t effect you at all. Unless you let it effect you.
Scrumtulescence
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I listened to a rather inspiring David DeAngelo interview with a "dating guru" who's under three feet tall, brittle boned, I believe always in a wheelchair, and with the goofiest voice you can imagine. And according to him he picks up tons of chicks. So, what's this now....you have part of your finger missing?
diplomatic_lies
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Must make sex really hard.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
Just because one can pick up women does not mean one is a true man.
I know this is an old thread, but I am still worrying about this problem of mine. I have had some really bad reactions from girls because of my problem, and it really lowers my confidence. Does anyone have anything to share that can help?
Thanks
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I hide it, because I'm afraid people will stare.
But you may be right, because if I hide it, there will always be the time when I'm talking to someone and BAM!
I don't have the end of my finger. That would startle and fluster a lot of people, I know before I lost my finger that missing parts of the anatomy creeped me out.
But you may be right, because if I hide it, there will always be the time when I'm talking to someone and BAM!
I don't have the end of my finger. That would startle and fluster a lot of people, I know before I lost my finger that missing parts of the anatomy creeped me out.I lost the very tip of my index finger of my right handwhen I was like 2 years in in a freak accident with a training wheel bike. It used to really bother me alot and I would hide it around even my friends who knew about it. It doesn't bother me anymore, time is the ultimate healer as they say. I don't go around like pointing it out to people but when someone that doesn't really know me notices it for the first time they ask me what happened and I tell them. Its one of those things that if you let people know it bothers you by hiding it they are more likely to think that you are a freak.
I used to think about not having the tip of my finger everyday, but now I don't even notice it and once in a while I'm just like huh oh yeah the tip of my finger is cut off. If a girl were going to be weird around me cuz the tip of my finger was cut off I would know that she is probably not the type of girl I want to associate with anyway.
hope this helps you a little
I used to think about not having the tip of my finger everyday, but now I don't even notice it and once in a while I'm just like huh oh yeah the tip of my finger is cut off. If a girl were going to be weird around me cuz the tip of my finger was cut off I would know that she is probably not the type of girl I want to associate with anyway.
hope this helps you a little
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Drbeard is my idol of the day now, I've moved on since Wyldfire.
I lost my arm in the vietnam war. So guess what I does in my spare time! I walk into my local veterans drinking establishment, and I GO MACKING! Gahd if those ladies don't LOVE me when I rub my stump all over their lucsious 19 year old bodies.
I lost my arm in the vietnam war. So guess what I does in my spare time! I walk into my local veterans drinking establishment, and I GO MACKING! Gahd if those ladies don't LOVE me when I rub my stump all over their lucsious 19 year old bodies.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
I can picture you wearing this really long trenchcoat to high school when you were younger. You came riding into my mind on a tricycle, than it turned into a choo choo train, well I snapped out the train part fast and you were on a bike and your finger was acting like a playing card, flap flap flap.
Sorry, thats what I really saw in my head, don't want to kill me now, it was for a good reason
donjuan whateer the **** number, listen to what he said, he's got REAL personal experience. The part about people thinking your a freak is true, just nobody wants to admit it, since your such a nice boy, who looks oh so scared of the world.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
Well I just might have something to ad to this one...
When I was 12 I got into a little scruf with a lawnmower...
And well lets say I lost the fight...but it didn't take the fight out of me.
I lost the top halves of my second and third toe on my right foot. Barly missed not being able to walk right forever, still got a limp though.....
To the point....
Even though I can't really play sports now like I did when I was in High School and well I did lose a couple parts of myself I never let it get me down. Hell I even wear Birkenstocks all the time, I hate shoes. So people can see my feet all the time... People won't notice small stuff like that unless you make a big deal about it..
If your charming enough your charisma will blind them.
Hell you might even get some sympathy *****...HAHAHA
When I was 12 I got into a little scruf with a lawnmower...
And well lets say I lost the fight...but it didn't take the fight out of me.
I lost the top halves of my second and third toe on my right foot. Barly missed not being able to walk right forever, still got a limp though.....
To the point....
Even though I can't really play sports now like I did when I was in High School and well I did lose a couple parts of myself I never let it get me down. Hell I even wear Birkenstocks all the time, I hate shoes. So people can see my feet all the time... People won't notice small stuff like that unless you make a big deal about it..
If your charming enough your charisma will blind them.
Hell you might even get some sympathy *****...HAHAHA
Donjuan87,
It honetly doesn't matter.
I've had a few open heart surgeries, a bonegraph, and surgery to repair a cleft lip and pallate. I have plenty of scars, and don't think it's ever been a reason I've gotten turned down.
It dosn't affect much. Honestly. If a girl can't like you because you have half a finger, then why would you give her the time of day?
At least you didn't get burned to the point where you look like a melted candle. That does make it harder to pick up however.
It honetly doesn't matter.
I've had a few open heart surgeries, a bonegraph, and surgery to repair a cleft lip and pallate. I have plenty of scars, and don't think it's ever been a reason I've gotten turned down.
It dosn't affect much. Honestly. If a girl can't like you because you have half a finger, then why would you give her the time of day?
At least you didn't get burned to the point where you look like a melted candle. That does make it harder to pick up however.