"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lost my mojo... drought

playa99

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I'm gonna break this down simply....

As of late I've been struggling to get dates with women in general for the first time in many years... Since finishing high school I've never struggled for women, they've always been the ones chasing me making a move on me. It was rare that I had to approach.

Back then I was a broke 4ss student didn't have a job or nothing.

Now I have my own business, got a good social circle, great family relation ships, doing very well financially, doing well for myself.

I broke up with my gf of nearly 2 years last August, since then going back out there, I've really struggled to get dates and to get interest apart from the odd ONS.

You see, when I was with my ex, I had a bunch of problems personally, family, gambling, a lot of things, which I've since recovered from and feel stronger in myself than I've ever felt.

The thing is; she was a 5/6 at best, and personality was a 1! and in hindsight the reason I stayed with her was because of these problems; when they got resolved and I got myself back on track, we just weren't a match at all.

I think being with that girl around my area could have damaged my rep... Reason being.. Girls see a guy with a girl whose clearly not attractive.. they think they can do better.

It's a situation I've never encountered and it's messing with me!

I used to have a huge ego as well, based on having materialistic stuff and how I appeared. Another thing causing this drought I think.. I'm now perceived as having gone down hill because I don't broadcast my sh1t at all.

This is a transitional period and I'm adapting to it... it's tough at the moment because of the lack of interest, but I know the payoff will be worth it in the long run because i'm focusing on the right things!

PEACE
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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playa99 said:
I think being with that girl around my area could have damaged my rep... Reason being.. Girls see a guy with a girl whose clearly not attractive.. they think they can do better.
Show me the woman a man sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself-Ayn Rand

Lots of other chicks out there surely? As for slumps, we all go through them now and then, that's when you evaluate and focus on improvement. Then attack it with the new bigger, better, brighter you.

Self pity > self contemplation > self improvement > self awareness. The circle of life (and poontang) baby.
 

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Yeah man exactly, bang on advice that!

The whole ex thing will fade away in time, I had a host of other issues at the time and this is the least thing I should be worrying about right now!
 
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