"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lost my mojo... drought

playa99

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I'm gonna break this down simply....

As of late I've been struggling to get dates with women in general for the first time in many years... Since finishing high school I've never struggled for women, they've always been the ones chasing me making a move on me. It was rare that I had to approach.

Back then I was a broke 4ss student didn't have a job or nothing.

Now I have my own business, got a good social circle, great family relation ships, doing very well financially, doing well for myself.

I broke up with my gf of nearly 2 years last August, since then going back out there, I've really struggled to get dates and to get interest apart from the odd ONS.

You see, when I was with my ex, I had a bunch of problems personally, family, gambling, a lot of things, which I've since recovered from and feel stronger in myself than I've ever felt.

The thing is; she was a 5/6 at best, and personality was a 1! and in hindsight the reason I stayed with her was because of these problems; when they got resolved and I got myself back on track, we just weren't a match at all.

I think being with that girl around my area could have damaged my rep... Reason being.. Girls see a guy with a girl whose clearly not attractive.. they think they can do better.

It's a situation I've never encountered and it's messing with me!

I used to have a huge ego as well, based on having materialistic stuff and how I appeared. Another thing causing this drought I think.. I'm now perceived as having gone down hill because I don't broadcast my sh1t at all.

This is a transitional period and I'm adapting to it... it's tough at the moment because of the lack of interest, but I know the payoff will be worth it in the long run because i'm focusing on the right things!

PEACE
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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playa99 said:
I think being with that girl around my area could have damaged my rep... Reason being.. Girls see a guy with a girl whose clearly not attractive.. they think they can do better.
Show me the woman a man sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself-Ayn Rand

Lots of other chicks out there surely? As for slumps, we all go through them now and then, that's when you evaluate and focus on improvement. Then attack it with the new bigger, better, brighter you.

Self pity > self contemplation > self improvement > self awareness. The circle of life (and poontang) baby.
 

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Yeah man exactly, bang on advice that!

The whole ex thing will fade away in time, I had a host of other issues at the time and this is the least thing I should be worrying about right now!
 
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