"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Lost my Libido and Motivation

pingpongz

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2008
Messages
150
Reaction score
1
Hey guys posted about my ex girlfriend a couple times... Since we broke up my complete sex drive has dissapeared... im just not interested in finding other girls...
I have been with 2 girls since her (we broke up about 3 or 4 weeks ago) but still no change...
Just have this constant sickening feeling knowing that shes banging another dude now instead of me.


How do i get my mojo back? :(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

In2theGame

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
2,185
Reaction score
1,135
Age
43
Location
New York City
pingpongz said:
Just have this constant sickening feeling knowing that shes banging another dude now instead of me.


How do i get my mojo back? :(
LoL. Im laughing because i know how you feel. its alright man, you will be OK. take some time.
 

Groovy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 21, 2008
Messages
752
Reaction score
22
See it as a chance you have of finding a better girl! I know this may be hard to put in prespective, but I see it this way: who cares about ONE chick?! You two were together, it didn't work out, so you broke up, even better! She isn't more special then the rest of them. But YOU, on the other hand, have the knowledge of how not to be AFC! Keep searching, if the girl didn't see your dj qualities in you, it's because she doesn't want a dj. :D So instead of being another avrege AFC, GET OVER IT, and find a new better girl, and take it out on her. :crackup: It will make you feel better, and who knows, maybe this girl will even be jelous? :D

Just think yourself as the dj, the prize, if some girl doesn't want to be with you, her loss! You're the one who is or will be (As soon as you follow dj bible!) the man and have girls after you, so why let ONE girl slow down your progress? You'll laugh at this later. So don't take it personally get over it and keep improving your socializing skills so in a while you will be able to get even better chicks!

I recommend distracting yourself by working out. You can't help it but to feel better that way. Good luck man! :cheer:
 

Junkyard

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 8, 2008
Messages
62
Reaction score
1
Location
NYC
I know exactly how you feel. Ask yourself, why would you want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with you? It does sting but time heals all wounds. You also may be thinking too much about the other dude which makes you jealous on top of it. Just Keep yourself busy as much as possible
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

brian123

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2008
Messages
256
Reaction score
4
Im a bit in the same boat bro. You are hurting over the BU and the lack of interest is your bodies way of putting up a defensive wall because you are not ready for another girl just yet.

Give it time, keep working on yourself and things will fall into place bro.
 

pingpongz

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2008
Messages
150
Reaction score
1
Thanks for the replies... I have a fix for my free time if i ever start to think about her... i get really stoned and play computer games...

Cant do this at work though... :D shes moving to the city i live on saturday for university and we're meeting up for the first time in like a month... she keeps telling me she really cares about me and doesn't know what to do blah blah

Maybe i should game her mother?
 

brian123

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2008
Messages
256
Reaction score
4
pingpongz said:
Thanks for the replies... I have a fix for my free time if i ever start to think about her... i get really stoned and play computer games...

Cant do this at work though... :D shes moving to the city i live on saturday for university and we're meeting up for the first time in like a month... she keeps telling me she really cares about me and doesn't know what to do blah blah

Maybe i should game her mother?
Cut off contact with her and move on. Work on yourself. Listening and dealing with her will only make the healing process take longer.
 
Top