"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lost Gungho attitude in dealing with problems?

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have any of you gentlemen lost your youthful Gung ho attitude in dealing with problem in life ?

when I was in my 20s, I had no fear in tackling any problems in life. However I now feel uncertainty in dealing with problems. I feel sort of lost.


Is there a way to regain that youthful confidence in your 40s ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yes, it's called working out regularly at the gym and lifting weights. You should probably go get your testosterone levels checked (and I'm being VERY serious). My father had the same experience you are describing and turns out he had low testosterone. He got some injections and has been doing much better.
 

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picard said:
have any of you gentlemen lost your youthful Gung ho attitude in dealing with problem in life ?

when I was in my 20s, I had no fear in tackling any problems in life. However I now feel uncertainty in dealing with problems. I feel sort of lost.


Is there a way to regain that youthful confidence in your 40s ?
That "lost" feeling is probably the onset of your mid-life crisis. The realization that you are "not" in your 20's any more is a rude awakening for many men.

However,you're barking up the wrong tree by trying to regain the immaturity and inexperience of your 20's. You should accept that you are now an older and hopefully a more experienced "man".


Cheers!
 

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picard said:
Is there a way to regain that youthful confidence in your 40s ?
YES!!

It's called weight training and Testosterone Replacement Therapy. You can probably qualify, just gotta find a doc who will play ball!
 

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BeyondCharm said:
Yes, it's called working out regularly at the gym and lifting weights. You should probably go get your testosterone levels checked (and I'm being VERY serious). My father had the same experience you are describing and turns out he had low testosterone. He got some injections and has been doing much better.
Wow! That hit home BCharm. I had the exact problem. Sure enough, my testosterone was low. That's normal as one ages. Got some topical testosterone and apply it once a day. The ability to concentrate came back as well as a rise in my energy level. Worked wonders for me anyway. On another note, the injectibles I found are actually cheaper compared to the topical.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well I am taking a light testosterone supplement in the form of topical cream. I doesn't seem to have immediate effect in a month.

Should I get the injection ?

Has anyone taken injection form of testosterone?
 

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romangod said:
That "lost" feeling is probably the onset of your mid-life crisis. The realization that you are "not" in your 20's any more is a rude awakening for many men.

However,you're barking up the wrong tree by trying to regain the immaturity and inexperience of your 20's. You should accept that you are now an older and hopefully a more experienced "man".


Cheers!
I don't want to regain my immaturity. I want to regain my enthusiasm for life.
 

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picard said:
I don't want to regain my immaturity. I want to regain my enthusiasm for life.
Okay, I'll buy that. Now, explain to me why you were enthusiastic for life in your 20s but no longer are? What's changed?

Cheers!
 

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romangod said:
Okay, I'll buy that. Now, explain to me why you were enthusiastic for life in your 20s but no longer are? What's changed?

Cheers!
when I was in my 20s, I discovered new things in life. I could smell everything with my senses. My senses absorbed all things in life. I was awestruck by many things. I am not talking about women.

I enjoyed sports such as hockey, biking, skating, camping. I played sports with my buddies. Everyone now moved away.

I have seen too many bad things in life that I feel disenchanted about life. I have seen too many dirty politics in corporate world. I got screwed by dirty office politics that piss me off. I want to beat the **** out of somebody. My rage is all bottle up like a volcano. My senses ignore everything in life. I don't want to smell the roses. I met different types of women: gold diggers, dumb chicks. smart ones, shy types. My senses seem to have gone numb.

Is there anything else in life that I can still learn? I find life is a **** hole.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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