Lost feel for women..what now

[ScrewIt]

I don't know how to explain this, but lately or this whole semester, i havent had interest in any woman, no matter how hot they may be. There was a hb9 in one of my classes and i felt nothing either.

I know i still wanna bang them, and have fvcking erotic/sexual dreams almost every night for the past 2 weeks. my subconscious and my conscious wants sex baaadd.....i'ts driving me nuts

so yea, the sex drive is there, but the interest in going out with them isn't. What i mean to say is that there hasn't been a girl i've been interested in since the summer. anyone been in this stage before and know why?

 

[Player_Supreme]

Seems to be a recurrent problem on this board. Why would you like those others post about it?

 

[Desdinova]

The actions I took to date women was on autopilot for a while. It came to a point where I really didn't give a 5hit what they wanted. I just wanted to go out and have some fun. I can do that myself, but I ended up bringing a woman to pick on. I'd drag her ass out on a date just to have someone there to make fun of. It all changed when I dated a woman who made fun of me in return!

I think in reality I was looking for someone who would be equally as fun as me instead of a living toy. It definately made my life a lot more interesting!

 

[sapphire]

Yes. At one point I had some hot women calling me to go out and showing a lot of interest, but i was much too preoccupied with other more pressing matters and I just did not care. It seems that when your mind is working on other things it negatively affects your natural sexual drive.

It is funny though. When I find myself not caring about women they seem to come out of nowhere.

 

[Jariel]

I think this may be a downside of the "don't give a sh1t" attitude a lot of guys take to overcome their fears, build confidence and decrease emotional attachment/oneitis.

In my experience this left me feeling apathetic about women and about a lot of things in life. I thought I'd managed to repress my fears of rejection, but what I had actually done is repressed my passion for women and even my self-pride.

Emotions are not bad.

 

[squirrels]

Stop focusing so much on that Super Bowl ring and just go out and play some good football.

 

[AFK Protector]

Happened to me. Girls flocked to me because of this man. I was just minding my own business being busy and on top of ****. Anyhow, it'll pass. Go get laid, because if you don't your **** will disappear. Is that enough motivation for you?

 

[ScrewIt]

hm.. much interesting posts. thanks guys

Jariel, your post intrigues me. this semester i have had that "i dont give a **** attitude", i dont know where it surfaced from but it has.

I admit i do feel apathetic about women and things in life. but i will still talk to them regardless. and i too think my passion for women is good like yours was.

and i admit more women have taken upon an interest in me since i stopped giving a ****, but it didnt matter cause i felt nothing.


please elaborate on how you fixed this problem, because i dont want to be this way for the rest of my life...

btw im a chronic insomniatic, which may be whats causing this...
i have a friend who's in a similar rut as me and he claims "he's incapable of love" which means he has no passion for women.

 

[The TallOne]

I am curious as to a answer also.

 

[frivolousz21]

Sleeplessness = loss of passionate life

 

[chancer]

Originally posted by AFK Protector
Happened to me. Girls flocked to me because of this man. I was just minding my own business being busy and on top of ****. Anyhow, it'll pass. Go get laid, because if you don't your **** will disappear. Is that enough motivation for you?

Hahah, exactly.

It felt like dating started to get boring at one point. I'd have a fear, then i'd challenge it... I could feel the energy and excitement, but then after a while. It took much more than facing my fears to find that excitement. In the end, I just stoped dating, went on a drout, found more passions, did my own thing, and then girls came out of no where. If you don't have a passion for girls, so be it. One will intrigue you eventually...

 

[The TallOne]

Originally posted by chancer
One will intrigue you eventually...

And thats the one that won't date you.

 

[frivolousz21]

the THEORY is correct!

 

[ScrewIt]

theory? what theory?

actually nvm what i said before, i'm not apathetic about life, i still got my goals my job, my workout routine, hobbies/interests, my friends etc. just apathetic about women.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
Jariel, your post intrigues me. this semester i have had that "i dont give a **** attitude", i dont know where it surfaced from but it has.

I admit i do feel apathetic about women and things in life. but i will still talk to them regardless. and i too think my passion for women is good like yours was.

and i admit more women have taken upon an interest in me since i stopped giving a ****, but it didnt matter cause i felt nothing.


please elaborate on how you fixed this problem, because i dont want to be this way for the rest of my life...

After splitting with an ex- and finding the DJ board, I became very guarded and thought the key to avoiding the pain and fear of rejection was to repress my emotional desires.

One of the primary changes I made to avoid oneitis was to stop building up my hopes, stop daydreaming and just stop feeding my fantasies. Not just about women, but everything. But this is a mistake!

Ok, I used to feed my hopes too much and that caused a lot of pain and disappointment, but there is a balance. I'd say I am still too apathetic so I'm yet to find the perfect balance, but I'm getting closer.

Once in a while, let your mind fantasize about the perfect relationship and perfect life. When you have a goal in your mind, it inspires you to chase it with a passion. Just don't let your goal be too far fetched.