"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am always living in fear that I will become an AFC again....!!! Do others do this as well??

[I guess it motivates me to make approaches]

BUT is it possible to lose/forget all that you have learnt to be DJ like?

I have read posts where ppl refer to "practicing" to "keep their skills sharp"? And others that say they revert back to AFC ways once in a LTR.

Is it necessary to "practice" all the time to be DJ sharp. What else can you do so that this "new way of life" is really ingrained in your consciousness and you never ever forget?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My question arises out of the fact that I find living the DJ life to be a constant battle.

The thought of losing this battle and becoming an AFC is scary! ..and quite sad as well :(
 
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additionally i wonder what will happen say if I get married/settle down...
I am addicted to flirting with women and kinoing them and eye contacting them!! --> so when you are married you have to make sure you forget right?

otherwise you'll get into deep trouble with your missus!?!
 
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We've been taught this all our lives, sadly. :(

There's this impression with our generation that marriage or commitment somehow involves GIVING UP your masculinity, sacrificing your manliness to be complete. It's such garbage.

It's in line with the same stupid belief that somehow being single is masculine and being married is feminine...that women are a symbol of (and experts at) love and relationship and marriage and men are a symbol of (and experts at) sex and promiscuity and individuality. It's a relic from a social order that has all but collapsed before our very eyes, and we miss it because we're too busy marvelling at our technology and corpocracy and "how advanced we are" to see our own socio-emotional world falling apart.

Remember that beer commercial where the guys were saying, "Sex sex sex, sex sex sex. Sex? Sex." and the girls were all going "Love love love, love love. Love love love."...that's an example of how sold we are on this bullsh!t.

Marriage and love are NOT feminine things. You do NOT "sacrifice your masculinity for marriage." Marriage is a FULFILLMENT of your masculinity, not an end to it.
 
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Marriage and love are NOT feminine things. You do NOT "sacrifice your masculinity for marriage." Marriage is a FULFILLMENT of your masculinity, not an end to it.

I completly aggree...
there is too much bullsh!t in the media that propogates a chumpy husband!
like that spiderman guy...he's the biggest chump if i ever saw one...but his woman still fell in love with him anyway

:rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by chicksrock
Marriage and love are NOT feminine things. You do NOT "sacrifice your masculinity for marriage." Marriage is a FULFILLMENT of your masculinity, not an end to it.

I completly aggree...
there is too much bullsh!t in the media that propogates a chumpy husband!
like that spiderman guy...he's the biggest chump if i ever saw one...but his woman still fell in love with him anyway

:rolleyes:
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No he's not. Remember he was out fighting crime late at night, but then he tried to give up that life to be accepted by his friends and his girl...but because of this he started acting like a chump and she became uninterested in him. It was only after he dropped the pansy-act trying to acquiesce to what the girl wanted and put the suit back on and started being who he was MEANT to be again that the girl really fell in love and came back to him.

A MAN Never loses his passion, for that would be the death of his soul. -Pook
 
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