Losing the conversation during the date...

[Babnik]

Sorry for making another thread...

You are on a date and suddenly there is just nothing to talk about...

What do you do?

I try to just END the date there and go away.

However, often you have to drive her back or walk back (if its on the way) and then not talking is even more awkward.


What do you do when there is nothing to talk about? Like on the first date or so....


Do you also leave? Do girls perceive it as the right thing to do or do they lose interest?

 

[Raikojo17]

nothing wrong with just enjoying each others company.......in silence.

 

[Babnik]

Its awkward....for me at least.

 

[Jay Jay]

Read the paper every day. You'll always have something to talk about.

What you should do is think about things that interest you.

Write em down. Go through your list and edit out all the topics you won't want to talk about (playstation, masturbation, this site etc) and think about why they interest you. Finally think how you can discuss these topics in an interesting way.

For example I am interested in history. Sure its a topic that is boring but its a part of me and if a chick is turned off by it then I shouldn't be with her. If conversation lags, "I was reading about Julius Ceasar the other day. Did you know it is recorded in history he had a huge penis?" There you go. If she doesn't respond then I will give her a battle by battle run down of the Gaelic Campaigns.

Hopefully you have cooler interests then me...

Talk with a slow regular tempo and in a deep tone. Chicks will be mezmorised just by your voice.

The next thing to learn is how to get her to talk.

The best skill to develop is listening. Once you can listen properly you will pick up what a girl is interested in. Ask about it. She will talk. Act interested. Nod your head. Say "yeah, wow." Repeat.

JJ

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Become an interesting person and you will never run out of things to talk about, because she will be the one inquring and wanting to know more about you.

 

[insanity]

if the girl is truly interested in you, than she won't shut her pie hole. every girl that asked me out talked and talked and i just sat there and teased them about some of the stupid things they said. if a girl asked me out she better entertain me.

if i was the one who asked her out i would go on an action date where talk takes a backseat to excitement. then after you do something fun with them the ball is easily rolled

 

[The Forms]

for the most part conversation should be easy. I understand there can be awkwardness, and that's where stupid small talk questions come in handy (so where'd you grow up? ) You can use those to segue into more lively conversation.

If the conversation never really happens, it just means you two don't click. No biggie.

 

[Babnik]

Become an interesting person and you will never run out of things to talk about, because she will be the one inquring and wanting to know more about you.

Well, it means you are not likely to bed her too...

 

[Lust]

Well, it means you are not likely to bed her too...

I don't see why it would.

Personally, i think if you are geniunely an interesting person, if will give her more excuses to screw you and to avoid the slut feeling.

 

[Distant Light]

I don't get how you can run out of things to say. There is no way you should be out of things. Only guys who think highly of what comes out there mouth. (thinking one conversation is cooler than the other, or one topic might be lame, etc)

The conversation should be fun for you so who cares if she doesn't like the conversation. Either way you had fun. There is so many things that I've done and said that were stupid but always gets them laughing and keeping the conversation going. I remember a 2set who my friends knew, I had them laughing and my friends are like "WTF why is it all his crappy jokes getting them laughing."

But really its not about the content its how you convey it and how you frame it. If your still having the "I ran out of things too say" then you really need to approach more and learn to hold conversations for hours and hours.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't see why it would.

Personally, i think if you are geniunely an interesting person, if will give her more excuses to screw you and to avoid the slut feeling.

Works for me!