Losing my virginity with hookers to get over sexual hang-ups

[GhostWriter]

Don't do it, lose your virginity to a girl in a relationship instead.

 

[perseverance]

Two of my friends have used prostitutes and neither of them were virgins, but one of my friends does regret it and any mention of prostitutes sends him paler than usual.

If you want to have sex with a prostitute than I say go ahead. There are men who enjoy sleeping with prostitutes and in Amsterdam it is not illegal. In fact it is very common in Amsterdam for tourists to visit the Red Light District. Would I ever sleep with a prostitute? No, I wouldn't, but I wouldn't stop anybody else from doing so if that's what they wanted.

However just remember that losing your virginity doesn't mean you'll be more comfortable around women and in social settings with women, so don't bank on sleeping with a prostitute to aid with that.

 

[f283000]

If you lose it to a prostitute the good thing about it is that your view of sex will lessen a good deal in terms of not putting so much darn emphasis on it.

I didn't lose it to one but my first time wasn't that memorable and I think that helped me to stop caring about sex so much and putting so much emphasis on it. You would probably get the same result with a prostitute. You pay, you get out, then you wonder what the hell the fuss was all about and your mind is free

 

[TenienteMani]

Dont do it you'll regeret the experience and the waste of money, put the money and effort into the real mccoy. You already know that youll regret it and jsut being here is a good step forward.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Mixed feelings on this one.

When I was 23, I broke up with the gal I lost my virginity to. We had been together for over 3 years. I then took off to Europe to travel, while in Amsterdam I did visit the Red Light District, but didn't muster up the courage to visit one of the gal's....they were stunningly beautiful then. I thought it would be a great way to get over the gal I broke up with, but I chickened out. I did end up meeting a French gal for a nice fling though later, so it worked out.

Looking back though, I don't think I would have regretted visiting one of those gals in the Red Light District. I'd look at it, as just another life experience. Could have been a damn good one actually.

I do think, it's up to the individual. Europe is different than the States, the whole prostitution sex mentality is very different.

If the OP goes through with it, it's up to him to not let it affect his confidence levels.

It's good to not make decisions out of spite, or revenge, anger, but doesn't seem like the OP is coming from that angle. He just wants the experience, in that case I echo Romangod...go for it! Life's short, as men it's our best to take chances sometimes.

 

[Mr. Suave]

I didn't read any posts but the first.

My advice is you should do it a few times, when you're over the "mystical" concept of sex you'll do better with normal women. Don't get stuck in a paradox of being too desperate to get laid, **** some hookers and you will probably relax a bit.

 

[Mike32ct]

I'd be more concerned about your game and appearance than your virginity. Focus on the problem, rather than a band-aid solution. Then the virginity thing will fix itself. But do NOT procrastinate.

I was a virgin for a VERY long time. I had a handsome face, but weak body, little to no confidence, and terrible fashion sense. Once I worked out a bit, got new clothes, a cool haircut, and some b*lls from lots of approaches, I was on my way.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dont screw the hooker, stop jerking off (at least 95% of it). Use that frustration and sexual energy to start to better yourself. Exercise, eat right, get outside. Yeah it's a mission but the gain is monumental... Maybe do this after the threesome, just remember hookers arent like pornstars. They want you to bust a quick nut and be done with you. Don't think it's gonna be like a porno.

 

[loveshogun]

So... did the OP need advice, or was he basically just anonymously letting everyone know he'd be banging a hooker?

Was there even an question anywhere in there? Or a call for advice? Oh yeah... what are our "thoughts or experiences" on the matter.

Well, my thoughts and experiences are that I spent the first 17 years of my life without getting laid or a GF, and getting either over the next 3 years didn't fix any problems in my life. The problem was me, and the lack of women was a symptom, not the cause.

Pretty much everyone here has said just that. But, you know, do what you want - everyone learns differently. Come back and let us know how it goes.

 

[corrector]

I don't know anyone personally that has lost their virginity to a hooker, neither have I. I have never used a hooker, but I dig the anonymity of it. I mean, you spend money, no rumours or any of the sort afterwards, no gossip about how bad you are in bed, etc... However, if you have looked at porn, then you may find the hooker idea is an extension of porn rather than steering you into a healthy relationship with a woman. So, if you are tired of looking at porn, and want to have hands on experience, then it makes logical sence that a live woman would give you an acid test as to whether the porn fantasy you've built up is real, or not. In that sence, it's a good idea to use a hooker as an acid test to the fantasy you've built up in your mind about women.

Now, your schedule is busy, and lets face it, you don't have the time to humiliate yourself infront of women, or potentially develop feelings, and want to see if this helps improve your marks. Just spend the money, and the fact you get rid of your money will sober you up since you'll expect to get you money's worth, and that in turn will help you get more assertive. Make sure it's a healthy hooker that's yonge and that you use protection.

I know there is one guy on here, named Maxtro, that did this stuff, but he still has problem with the ladies so that's not really a solution. Why don't you PM him. You can also look at other threads on here that talk about this.

 

[GhostWriter]

I had a really good friend (we had a falling out) that lost his virginity to a *****.

We were both 21 and still virgins. I told myself I wasn't going to get a ***** for the first time because I innately knew if I were to do the deed, I'd get addicted and wouldn't evolve because there would be no need to.

At 23 I lost it to a girl in my first relationship. Now we're both 25. He still can't get a girlfriend and has to resort to *****s. I forced myself to grow and now I've had a good amount of sex; all from relationships.

You don't want to be like my former friend.

Lose it in a relationship first.

 

[Mike32ct]

99% of hookers are cold and non caring .. do not loose you V to one of them you need a special service that will cost more but is called GFE (girl friend experience) it wil cost more but will be much less cold and business like..

This is another point that is not discussed. Hookers are some VERY cold, nasty b*tches. Many have a deep-seated hatred for the men that use them (and perhaps understandably so). The advertisement will say, "Sweet, great personality" but wait until she comes up to your room and collects the money. See how sweet and friendly she actually is <sarcastic eyeroll>.

To get a nice one would cost quite a bit more.

Anyway, do what you want, but I would hope that you consider it a last resort.

 

[corrector]

Coming to think of the original premise of this thread the OP idea makes sence.

If you have issues on the "end-game", and don't know if you are asexual or not, or are hyper-afraid of touching a woman, then I don't see how having some experience with an escort (i.e. try 2 hours) isn't going to help in some way because you are still dealing with a woman. You can always walk away if you don't feel comfortable and write it off. With a real woman, she could be offended you rejected her at the last minute because you got cold-feet. All you've invested is just some money into the whole thing and that's the end of that.

That is assuming if you are unable to get anywhere with any woman because there is a nagging thought in the back of your mind that you may be asexual and want to test out your sexuality in a "safe" way.

 

[Chamber36]

I've slept with real conniving *****es before who weren't prostitutes.

Then I've slept with prostitutes that were super caring and willing to do a lot.

It's hard to find a sweet girl.

 

[BlackwaterPark]

We're men, not women to be putting so much importance on our "first time." If you think it'll help you then go for it man. First time usually sucks anyway.

 

[JonJaper]

Hey guys, I've just come back from Amsterdam and want to update you all. Just want to say that it was AWESOME!!! I feel sexually liberated, free and (forgive the pun) I feel like I've been relieved of a massive load.

As many of you know hookers are legal in Amsterdam, and they are regulated, checked frequently for STDs etc so the girls there are clean, super hot and young, and it's all professionally done.

I had quite a few hookers while I was there, my first time was a threesome with a HB10 blonde (skinny, slim, cute face, pert breasts) and an HB9 brunette (big natural breasts, curvy, tanned etc) and they both looked and f*cked like pornstars.

I had about 3 pure mary-J joints, a few pieces of magic mushroom, plenty of alcohol and a space-muffin (a chocolate muffin with 0.3g weed in it) before hand so I was insanely high when I f*cked the girls, it was surreal as I was drifting in and out of consciousness, It was like I was having blackouts yet I was awake at the same time, it was like I was waking up from a dream and going back into it, not knowing what was going on, but it was all real even though it felt like a hallucination.

While I was high I felt very lucid, I felt like I was in a hypnotic state and I self-hypnotised and discovered a lot of deep-seated issues that I have, some stemmed from childhood and these issues built up and they stop me from really enjoying life. Most of you know that you have to love yourself and love your life to have healthy connections with the opposite sex, and while I was high, I realised how I was stopping myself from fully feeling myself and my life, and how I was stopping myself from connecting with women. This was a big step for me.

I'll split this up and explain this in later posts, incase it gets a little TL;DR for you all...but anyway, back to my first sexual encounter...

The blonde sucked me off and rode me, I came and then the brunette sucked me off before I did her missionary style. While I f*cked one of the girls that girl was fingering/licking out the other girl. While I was inside the brunette I eventually got bored and then left.

I went back to my hotel, chilled for an hour then went back to the Red Light District where I found a really cute HB10 redhead (I have a thing for cute redheads) with big dreamy eyes, a slim body and awesome big round breasts, and I pounded her doggy style before I had the best mind-blowing orgasm of my life. It lasted well over 20 minutes with a constant rush to my head. By this time it was 4am, and I went back to my hotel to sleep.

Since the Red Light District is 24 hours, I also went the next morning and f*cked a HB9 blonde from Hungary. By this time I was sensitised to sex, it got boring after a while, she tried to make conversation with me but I was mega bored and not interested in her personality, I just cared about myself and about f*cking her. I was truly feeling my raw animalistic masculinity. In this way, I separated the animalistic beast from the part of me that emotionally connects and attaches. It was a part of me that only cared about f*cking, dominating and owning the woman. Nothing else.

Since it is all professional, the girls in Amsterdam are mega hot, with slamming bodies. F*cking them was a real experience, these kind of girls are rare to find, they're the kind of girls that are the one that you see in a club that totally stands out from the rest.

Unless you are mega-famous, powerful (company director, CEO, senator etc) or the most legendary PUA/Don Juan, you would never f*ck these kind of girls in real life. I had to really scout for these girls, because some girls in the Red Light District are horrific and not hot at all. The girls I f*cked were the hottest ones there, by far. They could have been supermodels, they were that hot.

All in all, I'm glad I did it, I'll split my posts up and break it down as to why it was a very positive experience for me in later posts.

 

[Chamber36]

that's a really awesome story man. Way to go! I've got to start making more money so I can do that as well.

 

[bigneil]

Women who are 9's and 10's seek out men who are 9's and 10's.

With prostitutes you only pay for the upgrade.

 

[JonJaper]

We're men, not women to be putting so much importance on our "first time."

The importance that is made about the "first time" is the biggest pile of bullsh*t I've ever heard of. It's the result of religion, society and the media (especially chick flicks) putting ideas into our head about purity etc. I'm not trying to disrespect anyone's religious beliefs but I genuinely feel that the whole 'purity' shtick is more crap made by a group of people ruling society (religion was influenced and distorted by the most powerful, read your history) who were afraid of our sexuality. And damn right they should be, because our freedom makes us powerful and harder to control/suppress.

As men, we are biologically hardwired to f*ck as much as we can, spread our seed and have multiple children simultaneously. Women have evolved a need to commit because they can't do that biologically, they can only have 1 child at a time, and even then, it's 9 months of putting their bodies in a high energy-demanding state, putting their own lives at risk and then spending huge amounts of effort in childcare and upbringing.

Because of this need to commit, women find the idea of a "special first time with someone you love" so attractive. Don't buy into this crap.

Don't do it, lose your virginity to a girl in a relationship instead.

After all I have said, you can see why I totally disagree with the above quote.

Women are afraid of how sexual we are, and how sexual we can be if we want to. We could leave them if we want to, and they would face the worst of the consequences by far. They fear us. They will try to make us feel ashamed and bad for embracing our sexuality.

-walk off cliff in shame -_-

What's so 'impure' and 'dirty' about embracing your raw sexual energy?! Especially when it's done in a safe, clean and regulated way. Just because the latest romantic comedy chick-flick says so doesn't mean that there's any shame in it. Besides, you're 17 and too naive. Wake up and think for yourself instead of being brainwashed by the media.

HOWEVER, having said that... when I meet someone that I like, get in a committed relationship and then have sex, it will still be special regardless of whether it was my 'first time' or not. The number of times I've f*cked girls beforehand is irrelevant. It will be special because I will have known the girl for a long time, got to like her, and practiced so I last long and I'm good in the sack so I can pleasure her. But that's a different story lol.

 

[verysuave]

How would you like to think back when you are old "I lost my virginity to a hooker"

How would that make you feel when you are 80 and looking back at this.