Losing my DJism: How do I get it back?

[WestCoaster]

OK, just got out of grad school a few months ago and moved to a city where I know NOBODY.

A brief summary: I was a somewhat older grad student but gained a lot of confidence there with the career change and reading this site. I was never really an AFC (well, a long time ago) but I was just kind of bland. Read the DJ site and started dating lots of nice (and much younger) undergrads and grad students. The DJ stuff worked like a charm. I was cruising.

Well, reality hit, which is called graduation and getting a job. Moved to a new town some 500 miles away from my grad school haven (and heaven) and now I not only know nobody -- I'm losing my frickin' DJism! (Perhaps R.E.M. could do a song.)

Yep, joined some activities, tried with no replies on the internet dating scene, and my job has me in a small, semi-seculeded office with not much connection to women.

So with no positive feedback like I was getting in grad school, how did I get my DJism back?

 

[b's nuts]

check out the new wingman forum, hook up with some fellow dj's and go out.

 

[ProQD]

Your DJ skills are probably not lacking, you're just no longer in a target rich environment as you are used to. I moved to an area where I didn't know a soul so I took a part-time job working as a bouncer/security. That's a great way to get some connections.

 

[Julian]

Sounds like your life fell into the white collar nine to five office hell. Sucks for you man, i suggest a change in careers.

 

[WestCoaster]

Actually the job isn't bad ...

... I work in higher ed and like it, and yeah, hotties are often in my office -- it's not my job to hit on them, that could get me fired. And there will be more hotties on campus real soon, most a lot younger than me. It's not really blue collar hell, but right now my dating life is hell and I'm trying to upgrade it.

 

[Player_Supreme]

by doing the same things you did to get it in the first place.

 

[WestCoaster]

Thanks player; simplicity is sometimes the best answer

Thanks player, I seem to have forgotten a lot of my DJ skills since I was so preoccupied in making sure my new job goes OK, that I have a good place to live, etc., that I neglected some of the DJ stuff.

Simplicity is a good answer.

I think the deal with grad school is women are right at your fingertips -- undergrads and grads -- and even a guy somewhat older can meet dozens of women if he's just nice, funny, and outgoing. The so-called "real" world is a bit tougher, but I appreciate the advice! Thanks.