Losing Friends As I Get Older

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Hey guys,

I'm coming 43 this year and my social circle has shrunk to a miserable state.

Almost all of my friends are married and you know once that happens, trying to meet up with them is next to impossible.

Plus I've recently ended my LTR so that's someone close to me out of my life.

I'm a rather introvert person so I don't really enjoy hanging out at bars and such.

Even making new friends at this age can be challenging.

Anyone else in the same boat as me?
 

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Haha. I can only speculate. Maybe they assume we’re gonna take hubby to the strip club? Or to a regular bar/club to get him laid lol?
actually I bet more on the fear she have on her hubby do like she does when she is with her friends, group presure to ***** around, that tell me more about the woman then anything really, remember the soliptism? she can't undertand anything other then her own experiences, so if she is afraid then hubby will stray because a single friend, guess what did/do when she had a single friend?

at most when some old group of friends want to meet for beers I force a confirmation of the group, saying, so who of you will go and who your wife don't let you go?
 

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Generally, married women don’t want their husbands to have single guy friends.
I feel sorry for men who let this sort of thing go on. F*ck those women and f*ck their cuck husbands too.
 

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I'd not try to look for a friend in a bar. I'd be suspicious about other guy being interested in me in such a place.

Get interested in some organizations that have wide spread of men interested in the same thing for ex:
- hunting clubs
- fishing clubs
- car clubs
- photography clubs

They are not that visible nowadays but they are present, you just need search for them, start posting on their forums and be interested about the topic and eventually you will grab a beer or two with some members from your area.
 
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Hey guys,

I'm coming 43 this year and my social circle has shrunk to a miserable state.

Almost all of my friends are married and you know once that happens, trying to meet up with them is next to impossible.

Plus I've recently ended my LTR so that's someone close to me out of my life.

I'm a rather introvert person so I don't really enjoy hanging out at bars and such.

Even making new friends at this age can be challenging.

Anyone else in the same boat as me?
Friendship is something you need to feed, you need to stay in contact with your friend and meet once in a while.
I never had that problem almost all my friend are married or ltr now, but we still see each other often.

However what i find hard is finding ppl to go out with me, and friends in ltr are not the best for that obv.
They do go out with me sometime but not enough for my taste, positive thing is all their gf/wife like and and some have some cute single friend for me to meet.


For me team sport like hockey and softball help me meet new ppls and wingman.
If your not into sport take up some fun class like cooking etc you will meet new ppl.
 
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OP, I'm right there with you. Almost all of my friends are married. Out of those, very few of their wives like me much anymore. That's because they know deep deep down that my eyes see a world that they never want their husband/my buddy to ever see. That world being red pill reality. My life long best friend who I once saw 3-4 times per week from 7th grade up until our late 30s lives 10 miles from me. I haven't seen him in over a year now. A few years ago I helped him catch his wife misbehaving and after that he went distant, and has dropped hints about his wife hating my guts. I can put two and two together, he ain't hanging with me because she is forbidding him to, and he's too much of a chump to stand his ground. Otherwise, a lot of friendships break down for people our age because people are very busy these days, and very tired. A lot of married men are working like dogs and then coming home to a wife that sucks the rest of their soul out, leaving nothing there to be friends with anymore. Between work and the wife there aren't even any scraps. Or you got people working more than one job like me. I still do go out with friends, mostly with my GF and a couple other married couples who the wife still can stand me, those couple I have left. Not as much "out with the guys" anymore. But again, it's not just you or just me, I think it's a LOT of people in their late 30s, 40s, and older.
 

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fraternal organizations
This. Golf club. Any type of sports club. Support a team. Charity work. Masons, church, book club.

People don’t just “hang out” post 30 much. I find this. Perhaps once every few months.

Plus, all the social couples who do just seem to get wasted on wine. How boring is that?

If you can’t find a decent social life, why not get involved in the community? Give out some soup to the homeless? Join a project helping old people? If you can’t get a social life, and that is super hard in 40s, at least spend some time helping people. Or get a shared interest.

I’m trying to get involved voluntarily in this over having a “friend circle”. These groups are full of infighting and b1tchy shyt, and are dominated by the wives.

Social organisations aren’t so much. There’s loads to choose from, you just have to get over not being a cool cat with folks to “hang” with. It’s hard to accept that life is over, but it’s over. Also, you might pick up a few friends from it, who have similar interests. One of my issues is none of my friends share my politics or interests. That’s a lousy basis for social interactions
 

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Life happens and friends come and go. Most of the people I know text. We get together here and there. But texting has made society so impersonal.
I have a few friends who are divorced and single. My wife doesn’t seem to care
 
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If you can’t find a decent social life, why not get involved in the community? Give out some soup to the homeless? Join a project helping old people? If you can’t get a social life, and that is super hard in 40s, at least spend some time helping people. Or get a shared interest.
Shared interest is a big one, especially with guys. I think probably all my friends come down to shared interests.
 

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Yea man same here. Some where the wives don't like that I'm single and living a fun life and some where they don't trust their man (my friends) to be apart from them. It's a dumbass situation and honestly there's nothing I feel that can be done except for moving on with your own life. I've learned that there are some men who don't think their friendships are as important as the relationships with their significant others.
 

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Some women do this too, drop off after getting married and esp after having kids, basically for the same reasons mentioned here, hubby not wanting her hanging out with single people is not uncommon.

We had a woman in our book club for years who hung out with me and another girl all the time. She got married and the last time I saw her was at her wedding two years ago lol. Totally ghosted the book club too.

I think too, as people move through the so called benchmarks of life, time, energy and interests change. When we move through adulthood and have less time for leisure, some people become more picky about who they choose to spend their little free time with and tend to narrow down their social circle to a handful or so of people.

But when people drop life long friends that’s so sad. I don’t get that. The book club girl wasn’t a life long friend so I don’t care as much but my best childhood friend, that would hurt if she dropped our friendship.
 

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Yea man same here. Some where the wives don't like that I'm single and living a fun life and some where they don't trust their man (my friends) to be apart from them. It's a dumbass situation and honestly there's nothing I feel that can be done except for moving on with your own life. I've learned that there are some men who don't think their friendships are as important as the relationships with their significant others.
Which is incredibly stupid as male companionship is often excellent external support for your relationship issues assesment as well as counterbalance for woman getting too comfortable in relationship so to speak. There's also this lack of knowledge regarding what were you really doing that keeps woman in check when necessary.

So guys that drop the connection with their friends (especially single ones that certainly value it even more and that add even more edge to their social proof dynamics) are not the brightest bunch.
 
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