"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Losing Frame in Relationship

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Is the best way to gain back my frame to stay distant and care less about her?

I have lost my frame, and became too nice/too available. I stopped my self improvement. I noticed she is contacting me less...and it is making me nervous. Really bringing out my insecurities.

Now I am setting up to improve myself so that this never happens again.

How can I recover after this? I think she doesn't see me as a challenge any more now that she "has" me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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just play women game , when she has some what she show less ,call less , care less , just do like that
 
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How long have you been together?

I started to lose the frame with a girl I've posted about a couple times. Started smashing in May...

The last three days her behavior was wack, really the last 45 days, but whatever. I'd say 10 days ago, I really started distancing and not texting, ever. No calling really, etc. So, here she comes again- texting, being sweet, etc. So dumb.

Anyway, this weekend, she showed up at my house and was drinking with my roommate while i was out on Thurs, left super fast, late at night the last two nights to "console her sister" over some high school drama.Oh, and not fvcking me for the last week. She's almost 25. So, last night I dumped her on her ass- right on the spot. You should try it. You def regain the frame. Although, she may not care. If she doesn't care, its for the best anyway. Win-win. So many pretty babies out there!

If you love her, are in love with her or have a oneitis situ, that could be harder.
 
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