Loser making a move on a plate of mine...

[rum]

So basically this plate I've been spinning for about 6 months is starting to lose interest. I've always relegated her to about 2 or 3 for various reasons but always kept her around...mainly because despite her "issues"...she's actually the only plate I have with real marriage potential. I see her as somebody who would make a great wife/mother. Just not sold on everything yet. So I've always kept a keen eye on her and the loose circle of loser men that sort of hover around her.

Anyway, of late there has been this pathetic sack of crap that has moved in on my territory. Total dumbass(legit low IQ), southern, go nowhere military career(because he has no ability to do anything else but clean a gun and peel potatoes), has no money(I literally make 6 times as much), nothing to offer her, is younger and basically looks like some sad sack opie...and yet she's enamored by him.

Initially I didn't care much. Let her have her fling, I'll have my flings and I'll work on her later...but he's sticking around longer than expected.

So how do I get rid of him. Should I take little pot shots at him when I'm around her or does that make me seem petty? Pay MORE attention to her (she's usually the initiator but it's been more 50/50 of late) just be patient and let things take their course?

In the long run I can't say I'm super worried. I'm the best put together guy she's ever had in terms of the complete package, looks, earning potential, physique, intellect etc...and I really haven't given her my A game yet...but her tendency to dumpster dive and take on projects is worrisome

 

[st_99]

relegated her to about 2 or 3

"issues"

real marriage potential

tendency to dumpster dive

my territory

So you want to marry or worry about a 2 or 3 that has issues and likes to dumpster dive. And refer to a plate as your
territory?

Prognosis: AFC

 

[rum]

I see what you're getting at. BUT, I have extremely low expectations of women...basically I expect each and every one I meet to be a disloyal, honorless, emotional, irrational *****. And most are...except the fat ugly one's who nobody wants.

Every beautiful woman has "issues", this particular one has fewer than most believe it or not.

I'm not looking for absolute perfection

 

[whosthat]

hey hey leave the southern out of it

 

[rum]

hey hey leave the southern out of it

heh, sorry. no harm meant

 

[betheman]

"Total dumbass(legit low IQ), southern, go nowhere military career(because he has no ability to do anything else but clean a gun and peel potatoes), has no money(I literally make 6 times as much), nothing to offer her, is younger and basically looks like some sad sack opie...and yet she's enamored by him."

he has nothing to offer her???? your really sure about that? sounds like he has nothing and yet hes banging this woman you rate? and he has nothing? she is enamoured by him?

 

[women haze]

you are being real immature about this honestly. If she was really feeling you she wouldn't be on this so called loser.

I would try to go out and meet another woman, because seriously dude the more you fight back the more she is going to push away trust me.

It takes two to tango, and right now you are losing your partner by her own choice.

you makin that money homie go out treat yourself to something awesome and get ready for something else to slide in your life. She will come around

 

[zekko]

I don't know why you would consider a plate who ranks no better than 2 or 3 marriage material. A potential wife should be the clear #1. Anyway, if you're spinning plates so can she. I don't see where you have any say in it.

Total dumbass(legit low IQ), southern, go nowhere military career(because he has no ability to do anything else but clean a gun and peel potatoes), has no money(I literally make 6 times as much), nothing to offer her, is younger and basically looks like some sad sack opie...and yet she's enamored by him.

Did you thank him for his service?

 

[the_stig]

I hope he ends up with her. You sound like a tool.

 

[ilikecharlene]

Most internet dating advice makes sense, but I don't agree that any one human trait makes one better than another. Loser IMO is a subjective term.

 

[rum]

I don't know why you would consider a plate who ranks no better than 2 or 3 marriage material. A potential wife should be the clear #1. Anyway, if you're spinning plates so can she. I don't see where you have any say in it.


Did you thank him for his service?

are you out of your mind. The american lifestyle has been protected by nuclear weaponry for 50+ years. A lonely knuckledragger who never even went to college and plods around with a gun serves no purpose anymore. If America really had a threat, a REAL threat. We'd press a button. Not send in Gomer Pyle

 

[rum]

"Total dumbass(legit low IQ), southern, go nowhere military career(because he has no ability to do anything else but clean a gun and peel potatoes), has no money(I literally make 6 times as much), nothing to offer her, is younger and basically looks like some sad sack opie...and yet she's enamored by him."

he has nothing to offer her???? your really sure about that? sounds like he has nothing and yet hes banging this woman you rate? and he has nothing? she is enamoured by him?

no he has zilch. I do my homework

intelligence
money
looks
sense of humor
real career
great family

all me. Here's the answer...women are idiots. Frankly I'm sick of the "it's your fault bro" mentality that's permeated these boards.

 

[Bible_Belt]

no he has zilch.

He has her. :rockon:

 

[rum]

no he has zilch.

He has her. :rockon:

oh really, did you even read my post. He doesn't have her, he's making moves on her. He doesn't have anything yet.

I give women credit for one thing, they have one heck of a support system built up. Look at this forum, just a bunch of hacks making fun of each other tearing each other down. How about trying to be supportive for once instead of stepping all over each other

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

This girl sounds like a jump-off. You've gone out with her for 6 months and she is losing interest... She isn't feeling you anymore. She is feeling the other dude more clearly. Get your knowledge up. Get your game up. and your jealous of this dude and your clearly hating on the brother. Which means you have nothing better to do. When you hate on other dudes that means you need to get your game up.

 

[sodbuster]

When I wear the most obnoxious Hawaiian shirt you've ever seen[fluorescent blue,orange and yellow]....you probably think I'm a loser. WOMEN think "he has fashion issues, I can fix him" AND I'll go home with them or a number. Women Love "fixer-uppers",thinking THEY can fix him;then brag to their friends how they found such a bargain [like shopping]. Otherwise, they can just be looking for "some", IF he's hot enough, he can be stupid for a few dates[just like us with a dumb woman]

 

[zekko]

Maybe since you won't commit to her she's looking elsewhere. It's the nature of plates to spin out eventually.

 

[loco2chon]

My personal opinion is that you should let her have her fling. Meanwhile act completely normal and don't bring it to her attention. It could possibly be a test. If it isn't, trust me, you'll know... Look in to other options and meet new chicks.

 

[Greasy Pig]

It's the old story which I'm all too familiar with unfortunately.
Women can lose interest faster than a goddamn speeding bullet and although I don't doubt she has feelings for you, all women need to feel really wanted.
After all, they are all pretty much insecure in some way.
She obviously wants more from you or she's going to get that permanency or commitment from somewhere else. Even with a perceived loser.
Another point is that you have probably eroded her self esteem (through solid game) to a level where she thinks she can only attract a bum.
After all, she can't get you, a man with a lot going for him, to commit so she might feel she has to lower her standards to get the relationship she thinks she needs.
I think you've either gotta let her go and hope she comes back or just drop the other plates. Good luck.

 

[zekko]

are you out of your mind. The american lifestyle has been protected by nuclear weaponry for 50+ years. A lonely knuckledragger who never even went to college and plods around with a gun serves no purpose anymore. If America really had a threat, a REAL threat. We'd press a button. Not send in Gomer Pyle

I said that "Did you thank him for his service" kind of tongue in cheek since you were speaking so poorly of him. And I don't agree with 90% of what our government has the military doing. But if it wasn't for the volunteer army you might well be drafted and sitting in Afghanistan somewhere waiting to step on a landmine. So thanking him for his service wouldn't be inappropriate. He does it so you don't have to.