Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yes Looks Maxed all you want....But also remember to Maxed out in something just as important which is - 'Positive, chilled out, Happy Vibe Maxing'....You do this with your lifestyle, hanging around with Positive people who encourages you, Practicing a spiritual faith of some kind to let you have a balance view in life, lifting weights ,listening to positive music, movies and watching what you eat and consume. Loving and accepting your vulnerabilities and bringing that vibe to people around you'."Be conscientious about how the image you put forth..." This used to go without saying
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Case in point: The Men's Rights Movement mimicked the Andrea Dworkin wing of Feminism and The New Left of The 70s more generally, by going out of their way to look, speak, and behave like the antithesis of what anyone with an ounce of sense would want living next door to them- “We are twice armed if we fight with faith and an attractive appearance, for beauty sways the hearts of men.”
Plato
“It is better to be beautiful than to be good,“
Oscar Wilde
Be as attractive as you can be. It makes all the difference in the world. Looksmax as far as you are comfortable doing.
Damn!!Case in point: The Men's Rights Movement mimicked the Andrea Dworkin wing of Feminism and The New Left of The 70s more generally, by going out of their way to look, speak, and behave like the antithesis of what anyone with an ounce of sense would want living next door to them
Not surprisingly, they succeeded in attracting no one except a handful of online sh-tlords and White Nationalist knuckleheads, and came nowhere close to winning wide-spread public support
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