"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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steve_erkle

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I realized that i get a lot of my confidence from the way i look- If i look good that day I feel really good, but if i look bad i dont feel as confident.

I realize this isn't good (although i feel great when i look good), so what should i do about it?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Larajihna

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I feel you with this. When I'm stomping around town looking like an unshaved beast (not that cool stubble that is seen on male models, think of random dark patches) I feel sans confident. But on the flip side, on a friday when I'm all shaved and wearing my civilian clothes, I feel like a champ. What do I recommend though? Try staying "good-looking" as much as possible. But that's my uneducated answer...
 

steve_erkle

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Larajihna said:
I feel you with this. When I'm stomping around town looking like an unshaved beast (not that cool stubble that is seen on male models, think of random dark patches) I feel sans confident. But on the flip side, on a friday when I'm all shaved and wearing my civilian clothes, I feel like a champ. What do I recommend though? Try staying "good-looking" as much as possible. But that's my uneducated answer...
Well I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that althought we should always look our best, looking good is just a quick fix for confidence. Know what I mean?
 

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steve_erkle said:
I realized that i get a lot of my confidence from the way i look- If i look good that day I feel really good, but if i look bad i dont feel as confident.
This happens to me, too. Thankfully I found a quick fix to, at least, make it not happen as frequently.

When I knew I was dressed good that day I felt like a champion, but if my attire was nothing great I felt less of a champion and more of an AFC. My quick solution for the clothing problem was to simply choose clothes for the next day the night before - that way even if in the morning I only have time for a shower, I won't pick whatever clothes are on the top of the pile because they're preselected.

If your problem is related to clothing maybe that can help you.

-VdoubleR
 

java01

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Keep look'n good if you feel good about it.

You feel good because you look good, & women & people in general, will treat you 'good' because you 'feel' good, not because you 'look' good. So my advice is to imagine, & practice to imagine to ‘elude’ yourself looking good all the time, even though you don't. But all in all, if you wonna look good & feel good about it, by all means go ahead!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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FairShake

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On days you don't look as good take your approaches less seriously. Go casual and just try and have fun convos and don't put too much pressure on yourself.
 

Jaggs

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I get this too haha. Bad hair days and bad clothes don't help.

But when I look good, it shows.
 
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