"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hockey Playa said:
Short post here. Obviously some of the tips and tricks posted here can prove useful, but the biggest lesson i have learned in my 23 years is that looks matter. Ive been on both ends on the spectrum, and it makes a world of a difference. With good looks, comes confidence, and the rest falls in place. You barely have to try. So my best advice i could offer anyone would be to work on your appearance. Obviously people are endowed with different genetics, but there are things you can control. Stop analyzing text messages, get your ass to the gym, have good hygiene, eat healthy, buy a good wardrobe. If you are naturally good looking you are already laughing
Ah Looks matter thread. Cant argue with you here as i have seen it, experienced it and its the truth. Naturally i am a loose kind of guy and i joke around all the time and make people laugh so i have that part of me that helps alot but girls have called me Hot, sexy even gorgeous on some occasions or ive heard from a friend of a friend that so and so thought i was hot but anyway, it definitely has its perks and it does make it easier for me to talk to a girl however i do tend to be on the shy side at the very start so even though females could be checking me out alot i dont approach all that much. Thing is being a good looking guy has its bad sides too. you might be pre judged as an ******* or my favorite "you think your all that line" meanwhile shes checking me out from top to bottom. Its shield woman have in a way from good looking guys that they know you have choice of various women but they will try to in a way bring you down. Some may even be hesitant to get into a relationship with you from fear that the next girl may come along and swoop you away may it be because she has a better body or face or just connect better. overall like everything, it has its ups and downs but does it matter, no doubt about it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SgtSplacker said:
Looks do matter, but it is not everything that's for sure..

I have known pretty women that just don't take care of themselves. Super pretty girl, nice & busty I dated once. Crust in her ears, crust in her hair.. it was like how can you miss that stuff if your bathing? Didn't you just take a shower before coming here? Cooch semi stanky too... just grossed me out in general. The only time I really enjoyed her was after sex because she would shower and be clean. Then I would hit it again the way it was supposed to be...

Then I dated a kinda chubby girl that was super hygenic always well dressed and taken care of. Was a joy to sleep with and take out places. I didnt feel like I was taking some filthy scrub out for sustenance.

Really though, looking good is no holy grail. But it is one of those things that will either make or break the deal. Just take pride in your appearance is the moral of this story...
semi stanky,.... Ugh!! lol
 

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I've been told I'm good looking. Not one of those Calvin Klein models or Johnny Depp look alike but certainly above average. But I still walk around and act as if I was one of them. As long as you're proud of how you look you'll be fine. Sure it might make it harder for you but you still have a chance.
 

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I don't get why guys continue to say "Looks don't matter".. A lot of my friends do this. If you're dressed like a slob, then you're only going to get girls who dress like a slob too and not the classy lady all men deserve.

It doesn't take too much effort to open a few trendy clothes stores catalogues, get an idea of what's in, and go shopping for an afternoon. It may sound a bit materialistic.. But fvck it. I like looking sharp. And I know ladies LOVE a man that likes to look sharp.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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