Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Looks Matter

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Hockey Playa said:
Short post here. Obviously some of the tips and tricks posted here can prove useful, but the biggest lesson i have learned in my 23 years is that looks matter. Ive been on both ends on the spectrum, and it makes a world of a difference. With good looks, comes confidence, and the rest falls in place. You barely have to try. So my best advice i could offer anyone would be to work on your appearance. Obviously people are endowed with different genetics, but there are things you can control. Stop analyzing text messages, get your ass to the gym, have good hygiene, eat healthy, buy a good wardrobe. If you are naturally good looking you are already laughing
Ah Looks matter thread. Cant argue with you here as i have seen it, experienced it and its the truth. Naturally i am a loose kind of guy and i joke around all the time and make people laugh so i have that part of me that helps alot but girls have called me Hot, sexy even gorgeous on some occasions or ive heard from a friend of a friend that so and so thought i was hot but anyway, it definitely has its perks and it does make it easier for me to talk to a girl however i do tend to be on the shy side at the very start so even though females could be checking me out alot i dont approach all that much. Thing is being a good looking guy has its bad sides too. you might be pre judged as an ******* or my favorite "you think your all that line" meanwhile shes checking me out from top to bottom. Its shield woman have in a way from good looking guys that they know you have choice of various women but they will try to in a way bring you down. Some may even be hesitant to get into a relationship with you from fear that the next girl may come along and swoop you away may it be because she has a better body or face or just connect better. overall like everything, it has its ups and downs but does it matter, no doubt about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SgtSplacker said:
Looks do matter, but it is not everything that's for sure..

I have known pretty women that just don't take care of themselves. Super pretty girl, nice & busty I dated once. Crust in her ears, crust in her hair.. it was like how can you miss that stuff if your bathing? Didn't you just take a shower before coming here? Cooch semi stanky too... just grossed me out in general. The only time I really enjoyed her was after sex because she would shower and be clean. Then I would hit it again the way it was supposed to be...

Then I dated a kinda chubby girl that was super hygenic always well dressed and taken care of. Was a joy to sleep with and take out places. I didnt feel like I was taking some filthy scrub out for sustenance.

Really though, looking good is no holy grail. But it is one of those things that will either make or break the deal. Just take pride in your appearance is the moral of this story...
semi stanky,.... Ugh!! lol
 

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I've been told I'm good looking. Not one of those Calvin Klein models or Johnny Depp look alike but certainly above average. But I still walk around and act as if I was one of them. As long as you're proud of how you look you'll be fine. Sure it might make it harder for you but you still have a chance.
 

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I don't get why guys continue to say "Looks don't matter".. A lot of my friends do this. If you're dressed like a slob, then you're only going to get girls who dress like a slob too and not the classy lady all men deserve.

It doesn't take too much effort to open a few trendy clothes stores catalogues, get an idea of what's in, and go shopping for an afternoon. It may sound a bit materialistic.. But fvck it. I like looking sharp. And I know ladies LOVE a man that likes to look sharp.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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