brucevangeorge
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Seriously now,
Wake up you girly men!
Wake up you girly men!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
He's not sitting there asking if we think he's pretty, he's not asking how to be prettier, he's not asking if his eyeshadow matches his shirt. He's asking how people rate themselves. Admittedly, not the most DJish question, as DJing is always about "you're the catch", but that doesn't mean the thread should be deleted. It's human nature to quantify things, Coke is better than Pepsi, Italy is way cooler than France, my car is so much faster than yours, blah blah blah.ethnomethodologist said:I'm sick of the twenty *trim* not very confident with his looks though...
Then don't read them... there, solved that little problem for you, thank me later.ethnomethodologist said:I'm sick of the twenty or so threads that have come up this week about guys crying about their looks...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Exactly, choosing between what should be deleted, and what shouldn't be.S1NN3R said:He's not sitting there asking if we think he's pretty, he's not asking how to be prettier, he's not asking if his eyeshadow matches his shirt. He's asking how people rate themselves. Admittedly, not the most DJish question, as DJing is always about "you're the catch", but that doesn't mean the thread should be deleted. It's human nature to quantify things, Coke is better than Pepsi, Italy is way cooler than France, my car is so much faster than yours, blah blah blah.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MindOverMatter said:It's simple.
If girls apparoach you, try to pick you up, flirt with you when you don't flirt with them first (or they laugh when you tell a bad joke and you know the joke sucks), give you their number without you asking for it, or ask you for your number - they think you are hot.
If they don't do this, you are probably average or ugly. If that's the case, fix you apperance (work out, get better clothes, better haircut, clear your skin), and become more social.
this is the sure way to determine your attractiveness i agree with this except the part about the fat girls fat, girls are girls too an attractive guy is attractive to anyone weather the girl is fat or not and fat girls are bolder and seem to go for what they want they have nothing to loose it depends on how bold the girl is.Silverback82 said:you judge your looks based on the girls that have shown intentional interest in you because of your looks
do hot girls smile at you or make it completely obvious that they want you to approach them? if yes than you probably are really good looking
do fatties and ugly girls make it completly obvious that they like you or want you to ask them out? if yes than you are most likely average at best
most girls know where they stand a fat chick for the most part will not hit on brad pitt unless she is drunk
:crackup:ethnomethodologist said:Those are the three guys closest to being DJ's that responded.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LOL, your not very keen are you?Dark Haired Alpha said::crackup:
LOL, are you kidding me? Those guys aren't the closest to being DJ's, they're just closest to your opinion.
BTW did you even realize you called the board's biggest jacka$$ DrBeard a DJ? You must have been smoking a really good stuff.
Don't exaggerate. He's not great with women. He only got a few UG's, but yeah that's success in his situation and he is a great inspiration.Holland said:But he is still great women.
I am, just try to get the meaning that my post carries.ethnomethodologist said:LOL, your not very keen are you?
Dark Haired Alpha said:I am, just try to get the meaning that my post carries.
I said you were wrong and proved it by pointing at the fact that you called the jacka$$ (or hopefully a troll) DrBeard a DJ.
Get it now?
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Hmmm... your theory may not bode well for me, while I look rather young for my age, and have been often called very attractive, I wouldn't concider my face to be "boy-ish" at all. I have stronger, more defined features... but deffinitely prefer girls with more youthful, soft features. Guess this is another thing I'm in the dark on...Le Parisien said:HBs who have a youthful look with "innocent" angelic faces. I've noticed (I can be wrong though) that this kind of hot girls also tend to prefer the pretty boy type of guys. Personally, I have a very young boyish face. So let's say if I'm a 6 based on these young looking girls, I may be a lousy 2 with the type of hot girls who look older than their age (like they look 23 when being actually 18), and who in my humble opinionprefer guys who look rather big and "rough", who look also older than their actual age.
Hope this helps.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.