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Seriously now,
Wake up you girly men!
Wake up you girly men!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
He's not sitting there asking if we think he's pretty, he's not asking how to be prettier, he's not asking if his eyeshadow matches his shirt. He's asking how people rate themselves. Admittedly, not the most DJish question, as DJing is always about "you're the catch", but that doesn't mean the thread should be deleted. It's human nature to quantify things, Coke is better than Pepsi, Italy is way cooler than France, my car is so much faster than yours, blah blah blah.ethnomethodologist said:I'm sick of the twenty *trim* not very confident with his looks though...
Then don't read them... there, solved that little problem for you, thank me later.ethnomethodologist said:I'm sick of the twenty or so threads that have come up this week about guys crying about their looks...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Exactly, choosing between what should be deleted, and what shouldn't be.S1NN3R said:He's not sitting there asking if we think he's pretty, he's not asking how to be prettier, he's not asking if his eyeshadow matches his shirt. He's asking how people rate themselves. Admittedly, not the most DJish question, as DJing is always about "you're the catch", but that doesn't mean the thread should be deleted. It's human nature to quantify things, Coke is better than Pepsi, Italy is way cooler than France, my car is so much faster than yours, blah blah blah.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
MindOverMatter said:It's simple.
If girls apparoach you, try to pick you up, flirt with you when you don't flirt with them first (or they laugh when you tell a bad joke and you know the joke sucks), give you their number without you asking for it, or ask you for your number - they think you are hot.
If they don't do this, you are probably average or ugly. If that's the case, fix you apperance (work out, get better clothes, better haircut, clear your skin), and become more social.
this is the sure way to determine your attractiveness i agree with this except the part about the fat girls fat, girls are girls too an attractive guy is attractive to anyone weather the girl is fat or not and fat girls are bolder and seem to go for what they want they have nothing to loose it depends on how bold the girl is.Silverback82 said:you judge your looks based on the girls that have shown intentional interest in you because of your looks
do hot girls smile at you or make it completely obvious that they want you to approach them? if yes than you probably are really good looking
do fatties and ugly girls make it completly obvious that they like you or want you to ask them out? if yes than you are most likely average at best
most girls know where they stand a fat chick for the most part will not hit on brad pitt unless she is drunk
:crackup:ethnomethodologist said:Those are the three guys closest to being DJ's that responded.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
LOL, your not very keen are you?Dark Haired Alpha said::crackup:
LOL, are you kidding me? Those guys aren't the closest to being DJ's, they're just closest to your opinion.
BTW did you even realize you called the board's biggest jacka$$ DrBeard a DJ? You must have been smoking a really good stuff.
Don't exaggerate. He's not great with women. He only got a few UG's, but yeah that's success in his situation and he is a great inspiration.Holland said:But he is still great women.
I am, just try to get the meaning that my post carries.ethnomethodologist said:LOL, your not very keen are you?
Dark Haired Alpha said:I am, just try to get the meaning that my post carries.
I said you were wrong and proved it by pointing at the fact that you called the jacka$$ (or hopefully a troll) DrBeard a DJ.
Get it now?
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Hmmm... your theory may not bode well for me, while I look rather young for my age, and have been often called very attractive, I wouldn't concider my face to be "boy-ish" at all. I have stronger, more defined features... but deffinitely prefer girls with more youthful, soft features. Guess this is another thing I'm in the dark on...Le Parisien said:HBs who have a youthful look with "innocent" angelic faces. I've noticed (I can be wrong though) that this kind of hot girls also tend to prefer the pretty boy type of guys. Personally, I have a very young boyish face. So let's say if I'm a 6 based on these young looking girls, I may be a lousy 2 with the type of hot girls who look older than their age (like they look 23 when being actually 18), and who in my humble opinionprefer guys who look rather big and "rough", who look also older than their actual age.
Hope this helps.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.