You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Totally disagree. Went to the stripclub last night for a friends 21st, and all these AFC tipping this HB8.5 stripper, whilst I was just sitting in the back area chilling/drinking, nearly at the end of her dance she spotted me, and after her dance she approached me (I wasn't surprised at all, I knew she had to approach meOriginally posted by ShawnLG
Looks are not 90% of your game. They help but will not do sh*t for you if you have no game. Most of your attraction comes from on how you carry yourself and behave around women.
Originally posted by Kerensky
I just wanna say, if you put Brad Pitt in a room and Style or whoever the **** PUA yuo want, the woman will choose Brad Pitt. Even if Pitt says "i love u...ur the world to me....etc."
Clubs is the only place where looks are around 80% of your game.Originally posted by Gerange
I'm curious why dons keep saying your looks don't matter or they're just part of your game when it seems to me, after doing approaches for almost a year now in clubs, in malls, on streets and in college that looks seem to be almost 90% of your game?
I know a guy who looks like a model, he's 6'2 and pretty muscular with a beautiful face. Almost no girl is attracted by him (except his hot girlfriend) because he usually looks tense and anxious. He's not a complete nut (he's really clever) nor a social deflect (he's got lots of friends), he's simply insecure.Originally posted by Gerange On the other hand, if your a good looking or buff guy, then the girl is already attraced, and given the right circumstances and assuming your not a social defect or a complete nut, she'll be in on you from almost the get-go.[/B]
This explains why my friend Julian, who's 5'10, fat as Jabba the Hutt, with a greasy and pimpled face walks arm-in-arm and hooks up with HB8s all the time. I used to think it was because he started working as a Club Manager at 16, but probably it's because of his great looks...Originally posted by AlphaChump
Looks are 90% of your game. 70-80% of which you can't change. Sure, you can work out, and take care of yourself, but you pretty much look the way you look.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by unknownDJ
Totally disagree. Went to the stripclub last night for a friends 21st, and all these AFC tipping this HB8.5 stripper, whilst I was just sitting in the back area chilling/drinking, nearly at the end of her dance she spotted me, and after her dance she approached me (I wasn't surprised at all, I knew she had to approach me), yer we talked for over an hr and she skipped her dance to keep talking with me, we talked about all random **** like tattoos (she had 2 tats on her back), the scratch on her bum (from the floor), perfumes(she smelt soo nice), talked a bit about me n about her as well, and she asked me if i was gay? I was like **** no haha, and she said I have very pretty eyes, kinda corny
. Well the point is if i was a average looker, i'm 110% certain that she would never approach me unless I tipped her big when she was dancing. Looks is a big factor, don't underestimate it.
I could of took this chick home if I wanted to.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.