You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It plays a huge factor (good genes).Do you believe that looks are almost what matters to women regarding men, especially in terms of them (women) seeking a relationship?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you plan on keeping them for a long time, being wanted and dreamed of as a father for their kids, ofc looks matters a lot.
Most of us in here are not gonna be instagram famous or other kinds of celebreties any time soon, which means we dont have the pulling power to snag a girl several levels above us AND keep her for several years without getting a sht storm and her cheating with better looking guys simply because she can.
Pick up was designed to teach nerds to dream of getting the hot chick and settle down with her. Now you can still get a woman above your level, but its not gonna be many levels higher if you are a 5 looks wise and everything else is pretty much average except your game.
Here is the problem, a HB8 can get a guy that is an 8 with a good job and good genetics, so why would she not? Its mathematics. What can you offer that would put you, lets say a 6, up to an 8 and make her believe that you deserve her? Because not only do we all want a hot chick, we also want her to obey us. Now why would any human logically obey someone who is not at the same level or above?
The easy trick is to a find a woman who is below your level and marry her and settle for that. The funny thing is that most people think they are entitled to something of higher value than they are themselves. Dont get me wrong, many have potential, but TODAY what is your SMV and what can you offer a woman? Most couples or men and women walking side by side are actually on the same level even look wise, its COMPLETELY natural.
Sometimes we have to go back to the drawing board and look at ourselves and our competition as it is. When you enter the gym during rush hours, all those guys who out muscle you by a significant margin or just look better physique wise overall are probably beating you on Tinder as we speak. Use that as motivation to becoming bigger and stronger, eat more and clearner everyday. Its actually just like going to war, everything looks fairly peaceful but its not. Its a war everyday between which male gets to procreate with the most attractive females like it always has and always will be.
You need a better physique than most men, you want the "wow factor". Why does this work? Because it requires a war like mentality of eating and training all the time which most men dont have, ergo you show a strong mentality. You also want a better job than most men and certainly women. This is just where the game STARTS, if you dont have this you are already out.
Even women with higher education and high status jobs will continue to say that money and education, job etc is not that important. WATCH how the same woman "randomly" falls in love with a man with at least the same level career.
There is no magic trick, there is only evolution and survival of the fittest. Can you get your dirty penis inside a woman that is several levels above you once a year if you go out and desperatly try to game? Sure. Would it be better to invest in yourself in stead of all those late nights boozing around, poisoning your system to perhaps get lucky one seldom time? Probably, but its not instantly funny and rewarding.
Get yourself a great physique and a great job. Try to develop a social network to the best of your ability along the way, but physique and education/job always first. I know people who have done this, and they dont understand the hustle about dating, understanding women. Why? These men are scarce so women even contact them on Facebook. There is always exceptions but I would say this is the general idea, at least my ideology for now.
Looks will get you noticed. If they don't see your value then it won't matter.Do you believe that looks are almost what matters to women regarding men, especially in terms of them (women) seeking a relationship?
Yes, if they were not interested in what kind of man you are and go solely on your looks, sh|t tests wouldn’t exist.You should have looks at a certain baseline level, but I actually think i's probably more personality than looks.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.