"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Looking Younger Than Your Age - Benefit Or A Curse?

soulforge

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So whats your opinion?

I am age 44 but the vast majority of people who meet me, state I don't look any older than 35 years old.

This is mostly down to having a good healthy diet and a solid fitness routine which I have followed for years.

Because I look younger, I reckon I have a good chance off smashing younger chicks in the late 20's and mid 30's

However sometimes I have been called CUTE and I fukin hate it.

What would you prefer? The older look or the younger look.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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As someone who looks way older than he is, I most definetely would prefer to look younger. Sure, it was cool when I was 15 and no one would ever ask for my ID for anything, but now it´s just annoying.
 

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Depends on your age, looking younger at 16 is a curse while looking younger at 50 is a bless.

I notice most of the times younger looking men have amazing hair even before than great skin.
 

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I don't know man.. I don't feel comfortable with having boyish looks at age 44 lol

I've got a masculine face, strong jaw line.. Just look around mid 30.. But i'm not that far off 50... I find that a little crazy

The benefits I notice are, its easier to get younger puzzy.
 

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I used to hate looking young for my age, but now that i'm in my 30's I love that, IF a girl thinks i'm good looking (thus I can pull her), I can convince her (usually) that i'm a good decade younger than my real age! I slept with a 17/18 year old last year. Hottest girl i've ever banged. Told her I was 24 when I was nearly 35. I'd never had stood a shot if she knew my real age. Of that I'm 100% certain.

I have friends that are much more handsome than me, but they look at least their age. Maybe even older. Grey hair, major wrinkles, change in fat distribution etc. Like, they're better looking, but 80% of hot teens/early 20's (who don't have daddy issues) will instantly reject them due to the social stigma of the age issue.

I just wish I was good looking, but ironically, I think the things that make me not very handsome (weak chin, lack of abililty to grow a beard etc) are the things that make me look young/give me a shot at these young girls. I lie in every set as I almost exclusively hit on 17-22 year olds.

I stayed in a hostel in with teenagers in Budapest last week and pulled a 2 of them. One of them spoke about how she was grossed out that one of the guys in her room was 30! (Had to be sure to keep my passport out of sight!!)
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Curse.
I look 10 younger. Most of the dudes my age for the picking are not attractive

I legit just got carded in the liquor store
 

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Interesting im 40 and been told I look 35 or less but I need to get my diet fixed its fvcked.
 

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I suspect when this occurred you happened to be exuding a more neutral tone, at the time. How we present ourselves is dynamic. See if you can remember what the scenario was?

When a man is clearly exuding his masculine essence, I would say cute is not a word that comes up for women to describe him. Should it ever happen again, rather than get irritated, consider it helpful feedback and think about immediately upping your masculine vibe.
Its only happened a couple of times, but it was both on occasions when I was Drunk haha

On the flipside of that coin, I have also been described as having a strong intimidating vibe.. Probably due to having quite a muscular frame.

Maybe that's more of the masculine side lol
 

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A muscular frame can make a woman feel safe or intimidated and even scared. It's not the muscular frame itself. It is who you are being inside that body that inspires a sense of safety, intimidation or even fear, in a woman. A masculine essence is the energy/vibe you will radiate. It is more encompassing than just how you look.
I like this.. Masculine energy isn't solely about the physical appearance.

I have actually been around a few skinny short guys, who reak masculine energy.
 
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You’re fit, you look cute and you look younger than your age.

Embrace :). Girls dig the cute look esp if paired with a fit body.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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For a man: depends the job, depends the situation, depends the transaction.

For a woman: it’s a blessing no matter what age.
 
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I always felt that men feel it is emasculating to be called cute.
It depends. When I say ‘cute’ I mean boyish good looks, not a cherub baby face lol.

Some women will call all good looking guys ‘cute’ rather than saying handsome, for example, but they mean the same thing to them.

When he was called cute by those girls they could of meant he was good looking, or he was doing something in his drunken state that they found was cute haha.

Without the context it’s hard to know.
 

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Definitely a benefit. I'm 46 and don't look a day older than 35. All the young 20 something's at work and my daughters friends say I'm hot. Im pretty lucky considering I had a period of about 5 - 10 years of heavy partying.
 

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Some women will call all good looking guys ‘cute’ rather than saying handsome, for example, but they mean the same thing to them
This is my observation. When it comes to terms like this, there is a wide variation among women with how they define it. As you say, some women use the word "cute" to describe guys they like. In fact, I know many women who do not like to be called cute, they think it somehow means they are not beautiful or whatever it is they want to be called. But for me, the highest compliment I can give a girl is to say she is cute, because that's just the word I use.

@soulforge, I think you are allowing your own insecurities to affect your perceptions. You're only thinking about how YOU think of the word cute, and not realizing that a girl might mean it in a completely different way (see AJ84's post). I would wager that the girl meant it as a compliment.
 

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Just positive imo.
Gives you acces to more women.

I think i also look at least 5-7 year younger than my age,what ive notice and that i find weird is the attention i get from older women.
They are way more obvious than younger one.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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@soulforge I bet you're like a big cute teddy bear at times :)
 

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It depends. When I say ‘cute’ I mean boyish good looks, not a cherub baby face lol.

Some women will call all good looking guys ‘cute’ rather than saying handsome, for example, but they mean the same thing to them.

When he was called cute by those girls they could of meant he was good looking, or he was doing something in his drunken state that they found was cute haha.

Without the context it’s hard to know.

Well to be hosnest.. We was both drunk, we was laughing about something, she looked up at me & said 'you are cute' then proceeded to give me a Bl0w Job.. I swear her calling me cute, nearly killed off my boner.
 

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Definitely a benefit. I'm 46 and don't look a day older than 35. All the young 20 something's at work and my daughters friends say I'm hot. Im pretty lucky considering I had a period of about 5 - 10 years of heavy partying.

Yeh I have noticed I can get younger chicks attention quite easily... However what you may find is, the more MATURE woman may not take you too seriously.
 

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So whats your opinion?

I am age 44 but the vast majority of people who meet me, state I don't look any older than 35 years old.

This is mostly down to having a good healthy diet and a solid fitness routine which I have followed for years.

Because I look younger, I reckon I have a good chance off smashing younger chicks in the late 20's and mid 30's

However sometimes I have been called CUTE and I fukin hate it.

What would you prefer? The older look or the younger look.
Oooh, that's cute......
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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