"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tin Pan Alley Man

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I've liked a particular girl for quite some time. We went to high school, had the same circle of friends, and have kept in touch. I'm in the service, so I've probably only seen her 7 or 8 times in the past 2.5 years.
When I was in Iraq, she wrote regularly of her own volition. The letters didn't contain much fluff. Mostly "Take care of yourself", "I think of you all the time", "I'm missing you like crazy", "sorry to go all mushy on you but..." followed by sweet b.s. Her earlier letters were signed 'affectionately, xxxxx'(nickname I gave her). The last few were signed 'love', and contained some obscure sexual references (the entymology of the word 'orchid', which means testicles, and the sex habits of iguanas). She never before struck me as a sexual person.
There has always been some sexual tension between us, but she's always had a boyfriend. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years. I'm effective at hiding my emotions, but I'd really like to at least find out once and for all if she'd be up for something more. I'm naturally close-mouthed and she "can never tell if am serious/can't figure me out, etc. She's a lovely young woman, and probably won't be on the market for long.
She's a strong person, but friends and boyfriends have always leaned on her, and her best friend, whom I'm also very close with, says that underneath the sunny exterior she's not very happy.

I'd like to be the strong man she can lean on, although I'm probably grasping at loose straws. My plan is to just go in for the kiss. While I'm not optimistic, I'd rather know for sure. Have any of you been in any similar situations? How did it turn out? Both positive and negative comments would be most appreciated.

Thanks, and sorry if it's a bit incoherent.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It sounds like you've already gotten things completely in hand. The only problem I can see is that you aren't there to take advantage of them... an issue that I hope you remedy during your next leave? She's obviously becoming more open about her feelings for you by the "progression" of her letters; now that the b/f is out of the picture you should have a clear playing field.

Just out of curiosity... how did she incorporate the mating practices of iguanas into the closing of a letter?
 

SamePendo

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Isn't there a movie on this?

Poor guy dies. Made me cry. More than Bambi I think. Isn't it called "My first Kiss"?

Are you dating? Do whatever it takes for her to know your intentions, ask her out, get sexual (kino) etc. And then, yes, kiss her.. is this your first kiss ever? If so, well, it aint anything special.. just put lips together.. and.. done. Because, right now.. from what you said, you're just a friend.
 

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Thanks for the replies guys.

Diablo, she was studying abroad in Ecaudor while I was overseas. In one of her emails, she spoke about a trip to the Galapagos Islands, and wrote a couple of paragraphs about the mating season of the Galapagos iguanas, and how I would have enjoyed it. Definitely threw me for a loop
 

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She might have something special inside of herself for you from how you tell us the way she writes those letters. Like what you are thinking about, probably going for your kiss might reveal what she truly thinks of you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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