"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Looking for GF / LTR - give up casual sex?

GodsGiftToFatBirds

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Alright guys, I've been having one of them evenings where I've got nothing better to do, not working and there's nothing much on the telly, so I've been drawing up a list of my goals and ambitions for the next 4 months, not just with women but with all aspects of my life. Then drawing up a brief action plan of how i want to accomplish each one of them. Kind of like New Years Resolutions except obviously not at New Year.

Anyway, with regards to women, my overall goal, as it has been for the last month or 2, has been to find a quality available girl who i'd consider girlfriend material.
But until now, my attitude has been that while thats my overall goal, I'm also not gonna turn down opportunities to get laid, even when the girl's not GF material. Results have been that I've got laid a couple of times recently (had sex with this nympho in a deserted car park, and shagged a 30 year old milf after she got my number and sent me a naked picture of herself :D ) but not really found the sort of girl I'm after.

And I've been wondering if going after easy sex has detracted me from my overall goal.


I reckon there's 2 contrasting arguments:

On one hand, my focusing only on girls you consider GF material, you're saving yourself time and effort, and maintaining your focus on finding the right girl, rather than thinking about how you can get laid. You also show that you've got decent standards in relationships with women, which means that women are more likely to take you seriously, you're not just some ****y tw@t who wants somewhere to put his d!ck.

On the other hand, getting quite a few girls, even for pulling and casual sex etc, is a confidence and ego boost, which is gonna be beneficial.


So yeh, I wanna put the question to you guys on here, which attitude would you / do you take when actively seeking a girlfriend? And, very importantly, why?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hit

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Well.. it depends on your personal preferance in my opinion. By meeting and going after more girls, you increase your chances of finding the type of girl that you are interested in.. whoever she may be. It IS all a numbers game, after all. The more approaches you do, the more girls you meet, the better the chance of finding what your looking for.

I would continue doing what your doing; improving myself, still getting ass from girls that fit your standards though might not be the LTR matrial that your looking for, enjoying life and not making the hunt for your dream girl a priorityin life, but more of an objective that's awaiting completion. I just don't see how you can go wrong with that.

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RaWBLooD

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give up the casual sex.
 
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