Reluctant_Seducer
Don Juan
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I think too much can really warp a persons sense of arousal vs excitabilty..like you get off more on watching sex vs actually having it.that would suck lol...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dude.....this post somehow sucked all the fun out of porn.Luke Skywalker said:Looking at porn or not looking at porn has not made any difference in my life with women. For example, I did not look at porn between April 13, 2007 and September 28th, 2007 and didn't see much difference then when I looked at some porn earlier, or since September 28th. One thing I noticed is I've disciplined my mind where, if I allow a parameter of viewing porn, I most likely will take advantage of the parameter of viewing it and actually view it rather than exercise restraint, if I dont allow a parameter and put a gun to my head (i.e. cancel internet service) then I wont view it period. So it seems that I have to usually be tough with myself.
Right now I'm not looking at any porn since I have a tightly regulated policy - and may only allow a couple of hours a month of soft-core porn consumption up to December, failing which, I'll cancel my internet service (never been triggered before, but I know I mean business). This limited consumption is allowed because my prior gf dumped me on September 28, 2007, and that was our last meeting and I dont have a relationship. Should the relationship has passed that date - then there wouldn't even be any allowance of porn.
Again - I feel I have a right to look at a very limited amount of soft-core porn because I dont have a relationship and thus dont think life is fair in that regard.
LJC said:It only decreases confidence if you believe the women in these videos are actually enjoying it.
LJC said:Because there are a lot of guys out there that don't realize what they're seeing in porn is over-acting for the camera. I think for some guys, it can make their own sex lives seem boring and/or inadequate because the women they are actually sleeping with aren't reacting in the same way a porn actress does.Mr. Wolf said:It only decreases confidence if you believe the women in these videos are actually enjoying it.
How's that?
I think it just boils down to a lack of sexual experience and the realization of it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I found this website called www.no-porn.com. I read some posts on their forum about how porn was ruining people's marriages, minds, and lives. I was seriously addicted. I would look at porn for up to 4 hours at a time. I thought to myself, I could be doing something so much better with my time. Afterwards when I "finished", I always felt TERRIBLE. I would feel a tremendous amount of guilt. I'm a virgin, and the thought of ruining my sex life in the future helped A LOT. Good luck to you and to all you others, beware you can become addicted too!DonJuan11 said:How did you quit?
I've been trying to but I can't do it.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
tj said:p.s I met my favorite porn star and got a kiss from her. On the cheek of course
peace
no way.Reluctant_Seducer said:I hate porn..all it does is entice you to jerk off,then you're all alone again lol..
what's the point? yeah it feels good and the release and all but it's a totally jipped way to get off..i'd prefer a night of extended foreplay even with no actual sex ( but still getting off) rather then just watching porn...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
DrD77 said:I was seriously addicted. I would look at porn for up to 4 hours at a time. Afterwards when I "finished", I always felt TERRIBLE. I would feel a tremendous amount of guilt. I'm a virgin, and the thought of ruining my sex life in the future helped A LOT
Very true. I've had girls do all that stuff. As long as they can blame you and say, "It just happened," then they can justify it to themselves. But they're afraid of it damaging their reputation if they initiate it.Mr. Wolf said:You basically telling me that women don't give amazing blow jobs, don't lick balls, and don't swallow ***.. Don't do anal, or ass to mouth.. Don't fvck between titties, or foot massage d1cks..
Bubba, women do what you want them to do. They might come across as they don't want it to do, but they really really want it to do.. They simply need a boss who will tell them to do it.. If you don't push the girl into doing slvtty things, she will never do them. If she does you might think she's a slvt, thus it's not safe for her.
Every woman wants a sexual man who will create opportunity for sex and push her boundaries..
Poonani Maker said:Not masterbating makes you desirable among women, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. It's like taking the magic pill, and it's free.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.