flyingpanda505
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I read somewhere that there was a study done and that looking at porn decreases confidence in males or something... is this a load of BS or what?
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Looking at porn decreases confidence?
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Total BSflyingpanda505 said:I read somewhere that there was a study done and that looking at porn decreases confidence in males or something... is this a load of BS or what?
Randallpink83
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....oh Jenna Jameson, you have battered my self-esteem YOU B!TCH!!! :cuss:
LostAndConfused
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Watching it in excess would probably have some physiological effect on people....like believing that the women enjoy it as LJC said, subconsciously. So yeah it could decrease confidence if you think about it in that way.
skirtChaser
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I notice that watching porn makes me want to fvck,.....anybody ever watch a porn scene with a chick and then act it out?......this one chick I was seeing loved watching porn, nothing like watching porn and getting your c0ck sucked at the same time.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I hate porn..all it does is entice you to jerk off,then you're all alone again lol..
what's the point? yeah it feels good and the release and all but it's a totally jipped way to get off..i'd prefer a night of extended foreplay even with no actual sex ( but still getting off) rather then just watching porn...
what's the point? yeah it feels good and the release and all but it's a totally jipped way to get off..i'd prefer a night of extended foreplay even with no actual sex ( but still getting off) rather then just watching porn...
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I think It *can*.
Only if you find porn as a dependancy to get off. I watch it, But You need to get laid regularily as well. Otherwise your mind will start to think this is as good as you can get.
Only if you find porn as a dependancy to get off. I watch it, But You need to get laid regularily as well. Otherwise your mind will start to think this is as good as you can get.
Maxtro
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It can, if you compare yourself to the people on there. If you start thinking that you can't make a woman orgasm because you aren't totally ripped and don't have a 10 inch **** and that you can't have sex for 40 minutes without stopping to breath, then it might affect your confidence.
frivolousz21
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Porn is gods gift to men.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Yeah, porn stars are great actorsIt only decreases confidence if you believe the women in these videos are actually enjoying it.
i had to quit because i became addicted to that ****. i realized that when i finally do get a woman, it would hurt our relationship if i kept it up. porn gives you a false sense of reality and makes girls out to be objects. i'm glad i got away from it.
Jack McCrack
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Are you guys saying women don't enjoy sex? Even on camera?
Fuglydude
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Me and my gf both look at porn...we even share it sometimes. I have a relatively high sex drive...I need it like 2 times a day atleast...3 is ideal. We both work and I go to school, and have other stuff going on so I only see her at night. I take care of myself the other time(s). Porn is great to help with this...although I don't need it...it does make the whole thing a lot more fun. My gf uses porn to masturbate too.
I do agree with the whole seeing women as objects thing...however, I think women actually LIKE being treated like sex objects...as long as you're not forcing them to do things that they're not comfortable with. My gf says she loves being submissive in the bedroom, and she says it turns her on to be ordered around and told what to do. I think a women generally likes being with a sexually aggressive guy who will have his own way with her, assuming she finds him attractive and she is okay with the stuff that they're doing.
I do agree with the whole seeing women as objects thing...however, I think women actually LIKE being treated like sex objects...as long as you're not forcing them to do things that they're not comfortable with. My gf says she loves being submissive in the bedroom, and she says it turns her on to be ordered around and told what to do. I think a women generally likes being with a sexually aggressive guy who will have his own way with her, assuming she finds him attractive and she is okay with the stuff that they're doing.
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jesusrules
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i dont think it does, but it can i guess.
DrD77 said:i had to quit because i became addicted to that ****. i realized that when i finally do get a woman, it would hurt our relationship if i kept it up. porn gives you a false sense of reality and makes girls out to be objects. i'm glad i got away from it.
How did you quit?
I've been trying to but I can't do it.
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Looking at porn or not looking at porn has not made any difference in my life with women. For example, I did not look at porn between April 13, 2007 and September 28th, 2007 and didn't see much difference then when I looked at some porn earlier, or since September 28th. One thing I noticed is I've disciplined my mind where, if I allow a parameter of viewing porn, I most likely will take advantage of the parameter of viewing it and actually view it rather than exercise restraint, if I dont allow a parameter and put a gun to my head (i.e. cancel internet service) then I wont view it period. So it seems that I have to usually be tough with myself.
Right now I'm not looking at any porn since I have a tightly regulated policy - and may only allow a couple of hours a month of soft-core porn consumption up to December, failing which, I'll cancel my internet service (never been triggered before, but I know I mean business). This limited consumption is allowed because my prior gf dumped me on September 28, 2007, and that was our last meeting and I dont have a relationship. Should the relationship has passed that date - then there wouldn't even be any allowance of porn.
Again - I feel I have a right to look at a very limited amount of soft-core porn because I dont have a relationship and thus dont think life is fair in that regard.
Right now I'm not looking at any porn since I have a tightly regulated policy - and may only allow a couple of hours a month of soft-core porn consumption up to December, failing which, I'll cancel my internet service (never been triggered before, but I know I mean business). This limited consumption is allowed because my prior gf dumped me on September 28, 2007, and that was our last meeting and I dont have a relationship. Should the relationship has passed that date - then there wouldn't even be any allowance of porn.
Again - I feel I have a right to look at a very limited amount of soft-core porn because I dont have a relationship and thus dont think life is fair in that regard.
Maxtro
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Honestly I "enjoy" porn. It is the closet thing to sex I have had in a year. I have way too much porn 46 gigs of it. Without porn I wouldn't ever see a naked woman.
But I am doing an experiment this week. I haven't looked at porn or masturbated since Saturday. My goal is to see how long I can abstain from the two. And then see if there is any change in myself because of it.
But I am doing an experiment this week. I haven't looked at porn or masturbated since Saturday. My goal is to see how long I can abstain from the two. And then see if there is any change in myself because of it.
46 gigs? Not bad.Maxtro said:Honestly I "enjoy" porn. It is the closet thing to sex I have had in a year. I have way too much porn 46 gigs of it. Without porn I wouldn't ever see a naked woman.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.