flyingpanda505
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I read somewhere that there was a study done and that looking at porn decreases confidence in males or something... is this a load of BS or what?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Looking at porn decreases confidence?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Total BSflyingpanda505 said:I read somewhere that there was a study done and that looking at porn decreases confidence in males or something... is this a load of BS or what?
Randallpink83
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....oh Jenna Jameson, you have battered my self-esteem YOU B!TCH!!! :cuss:
LostAndConfused
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Watching it in excess would probably have some physiological effect on people....like believing that the women enjoy it as LJC said, subconsciously. So yeah it could decrease confidence if you think about it in that way.
skirtChaser
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I notice that watching porn makes me want to fvck,.....anybody ever watch a porn scene with a chick and then act it out?......this one chick I was seeing loved watching porn, nothing like watching porn and getting your c0ck sucked at the same time.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Reluctant_Seducer
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I hate porn..all it does is entice you to jerk off,then you're all alone again lol..
what's the point? yeah it feels good and the release and all but it's a totally jipped way to get off..i'd prefer a night of extended foreplay even with no actual sex ( but still getting off) rather then just watching porn...
what's the point? yeah it feels good and the release and all but it's a totally jipped way to get off..i'd prefer a night of extended foreplay even with no actual sex ( but still getting off) rather then just watching porn...
PerfectCircle
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I think It *can*.
Only if you find porn as a dependancy to get off. I watch it, But You need to get laid regularily as well. Otherwise your mind will start to think this is as good as you can get.
Only if you find porn as a dependancy to get off. I watch it, But You need to get laid regularily as well. Otherwise your mind will start to think this is as good as you can get.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
It can, if you compare yourself to the people on there. If you start thinking that you can't make a woman orgasm because you aren't totally ripped and don't have a 10 inch **** and that you can't have sex for 40 minutes without stopping to breath, then it might affect your confidence.
frivolousz21
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Porn is gods gift to men.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Microfiltered
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Yeah, porn stars are great actorsIt only decreases confidence if you believe the women in these videos are actually enjoying it.
i had to quit because i became addicted to that ****. i realized that when i finally do get a woman, it would hurt our relationship if i kept it up. porn gives you a false sense of reality and makes girls out to be objects. i'm glad i got away from it.
Jack McCrack
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Are you guys saying women don't enjoy sex? Even on camera?
Fuglydude
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Me and my gf both look at porn...we even share it sometimes. I have a relatively high sex drive...I need it like 2 times a day atleast...3 is ideal. We both work and I go to school, and have other stuff going on so I only see her at night. I take care of myself the other time(s). Porn is great to help with this...although I don't need it...it does make the whole thing a lot more fun. My gf uses porn to masturbate too.
I do agree with the whole seeing women as objects thing...however, I think women actually LIKE being treated like sex objects...as long as you're not forcing them to do things that they're not comfortable with. My gf says she loves being submissive in the bedroom, and she says it turns her on to be ordered around and told what to do. I think a women generally likes being with a sexually aggressive guy who will have his own way with her, assuming she finds him attractive and she is okay with the stuff that they're doing.
I do agree with the whole seeing women as objects thing...however, I think women actually LIKE being treated like sex objects...as long as you're not forcing them to do things that they're not comfortable with. My gf says she loves being submissive in the bedroom, and she says it turns her on to be ordered around and told what to do. I think a women generally likes being with a sexually aggressive guy who will have his own way with her, assuming she finds him attractive and she is okay with the stuff that they're doing.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
jesusrules
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i dont think it does, but it can i guess.
DrD77 said:i had to quit because i became addicted to that ****. i realized that when i finally do get a woman, it would hurt our relationship if i kept it up. porn gives you a false sense of reality and makes girls out to be objects. i'm glad i got away from it.
How did you quit?
I've been trying to but I can't do it.
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Looking at porn or not looking at porn has not made any difference in my life with women. For example, I did not look at porn between April 13, 2007 and September 28th, 2007 and didn't see much difference then when I looked at some porn earlier, or since September 28th. One thing I noticed is I've disciplined my mind where, if I allow a parameter of viewing porn, I most likely will take advantage of the parameter of viewing it and actually view it rather than exercise restraint, if I dont allow a parameter and put a gun to my head (i.e. cancel internet service) then I wont view it period. So it seems that I have to usually be tough with myself.
Right now I'm not looking at any porn since I have a tightly regulated policy - and may only allow a couple of hours a month of soft-core porn consumption up to December, failing which, I'll cancel my internet service (never been triggered before, but I know I mean business). This limited consumption is allowed because my prior gf dumped me on September 28, 2007, and that was our last meeting and I dont have a relationship. Should the relationship has passed that date - then there wouldn't even be any allowance of porn.
Again - I feel I have a right to look at a very limited amount of soft-core porn because I dont have a relationship and thus dont think life is fair in that regard.
Right now I'm not looking at any porn since I have a tightly regulated policy - and may only allow a couple of hours a month of soft-core porn consumption up to December, failing which, I'll cancel my internet service (never been triggered before, but I know I mean business). This limited consumption is allowed because my prior gf dumped me on September 28, 2007, and that was our last meeting and I dont have a relationship. Should the relationship has passed that date - then there wouldn't even be any allowance of porn.
Again - I feel I have a right to look at a very limited amount of soft-core porn because I dont have a relationship and thus dont think life is fair in that regard.
Maxtro
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Honestly I "enjoy" porn. It is the closet thing to sex I have had in a year. I have way too much porn 46 gigs of it. Without porn I wouldn't ever see a naked woman.
But I am doing an experiment this week. I haven't looked at porn or masturbated since Saturday. My goal is to see how long I can abstain from the two. And then see if there is any change in myself because of it.
But I am doing an experiment this week. I haven't looked at porn or masturbated since Saturday. My goal is to see how long I can abstain from the two. And then see if there is any change in myself because of it.
46 gigs? Not bad.Maxtro said:Honestly I "enjoy" porn. It is the closet thing to sex I have had in a year. I have way too much porn 46 gigs of it. Without porn I wouldn't ever see a naked woman.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.