So.. there is this woman, ive had the majority of the body lang. sign, also she does the whole playful touching thing at times.....so i guess we have gone out a few time - weve been to walmart together and few other stores but no OUT ON A DATE - BUUT she has come over a few times. First time she asked if she could come over and work on some homework with me and watch a movie (we did) on this first 'date' i cooked us dinner, she said it was great - and we watched a movie .. now while watching the movie she sort of leaned up against me - but i didnt really make a move, ik wanted her to feel comfortable @ my apartment (first time she was here and all) ok so that night went good.. then the NEXT night she wanted to come over again and watch a film w me, i said yes of course, but her roomate came with her - so we were watching the movie and we were leaning towds eachother and i slowly put my arm around her... as i reached her sholder she kind of moved forward which was odd, soo i back right off (thinking ok maybe too soon?)... sooo tonight we had class, she asked if i wanted to go out for pizza, her treat i was like hey sure! but then she asked to come over to my house, we cooked some microwave lasagna kind of ghetto but good!... so then while we were readin the directions she was infront of me and she kept bumping or moving back into me..so i was like hey im in like a shoe! lol.. so now she asked if she could come over tommorrow to work on home work, watch a movie and she said she wanted to cook dinner,... said she would bring some red wine! woot.. so what do you all think for my next encounter - should i try to make a move or no?...and what are your orveral thoughts...but should i or shouldnt i make a move...i dont know....i think so but not sure.. thanks!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
dude make the move! you've got a great chance here- the girl digs you man. she's gonna cook you dinner and bring over red wine? I say you should get some KINO going and progress from there.
Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
not at all- have her cook a dish for you while you cook one for her...if she needs help cooking her dish if for example hers takes longer help her out or set up the table, pour the wine- light the candle and you'll be golden man
by the way the food preperation time is great for KINO one example- you could if things are going well go up behind her while shes at the counter slicing tomatoes or doing some other food prep action and put your hands on the counter outside of hers peek over her shoulder and say a C+F comment on what shes doing- be close enough for her to smell your cologne-
by the way the food preperation time is great for KINO one example- you could if things are going well go up behind her while shes at the counter slicing tomatoes or doing some other food prep action and put your hands on the counter outside of hers peek over her shoulder and say a C+F comment on what shes doing- be close enough for her to smell your cologne-
Don Corleone
Don Juan
First of all, read the DJ bible. You are acting like an AFC right now, and if you don't watch out you might just lose her. First of all, don't be afraid to make your move. Your a man, and thats what you do. Put your damn arm around her, and pull her close to you(when watching the movie). Let her make you dinner. Sit back and watch her, let her do all the work. When she pours the wine, use some ****y & Funny on her(Say "Are you trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me?" then give her a sly smile). She is obviously into you. No doubt about it.
If she doesn't want you to make the move(which I highly doubt), she'll let you know. Whats the worst that will happen? She will tell you she doesn't like it! Oh well! NEXT! Ask her if she can hook you up with a friend.
Keep your eyes and options open. Play it cool and do yourself a favor and read the DJ bible before you have your date.
Make the move, thats what men do. Only boys and females hesitate.
If she doesn't want you to make the move(which I highly doubt), she'll let you know. Whats the worst that will happen? She will tell you she doesn't like it! Oh well! NEXT! Ask her if she can hook you up with a friend.
Keep your eyes and options open. Play it cool and do yourself a favor and read the DJ bible before you have your date.
Make the move, thats what men do. Only boys and females hesitate.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.