"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So basicly iam total AFC , reading this for some time ago .

Iam very shy and trying to slowly boost my confidence with different methods (Sports , talking to random ppl but not girls etc ).

Today i went back from the Doctor , and went to get HIV tested , i will get the result in another day .
So i told myself what if i got aids ? i know its sound dumb but i said f*ck it i wouldnt give a sh*t about anything and live to the fullest .

So i put myself for few min in this state of mind , and i surprised myself to walk behing a real cuttie , HB 8 like , and negged her on her dress so naturaly that i couldnt believe it myself , in deed the rejected me by a smile and she said nothing .

Dam if i could have this state of mind all the time :))

Take it easy guys with that post i dont mean to joke around with AIDS or nothing , just what happened to me !
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sorry to hear you have AIDS man.


C'mon guys, lets show him support! ! ! ! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by bootlegger
sorry to hear you have AIDS man.


C'mon guys, lets show him support! ! ! ! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He doesn't know if he has AIDS yet. However, the stress caused from waiting for the results is enough for anyone to endure. Good luck man.
 

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having aids and hiv makes you more confident. highly recommended.

/sarcasm
 

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No guys , wait i dont think i have it .

I just meant to told you that the stress of waiting put me in this *i give no **** bout anything* state of minds .

Anyway anyone should do the test sometime !

Iam straigh btw but you never know , **** happen ...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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no confidence with girls and youre busting neg hits?

the whole neg hit thing seems to be the wrong idea unless youre super smooth

i dont think i will ever even attempt that sh1t.. i think its far more important to be comfortable with yourself and confident vs. trying to flip some reverse psychology on a girl and make fun of her in hopes of her liking it somehow

seems that neg hits are best for hoe's who like playing games.. i guess i just am not around those type of women as much.. maybe i would try that if i were in this situation more

like on a sassy porn slut like britney sky
 

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Originally posted by crackhead
No confidence with girls and youre busting neg hits?

the whole neg hit thing seems to be the wrong idea unless youre super smooth

I dont think i will ever even attempt that sh1t.. i think its far more important to be comfortable with yourself and confident vs. trying to flip some reverse psychology on a girl and make fun of her in hopes of her liking it somehow. Seems that neg hits are best for hoe's who like playing games.. i guess i just am not around those type of women as much..
Neg hits do work if you pull them off correctly. The trick is to be smooth enough so that she sees something positive out of making fun of her.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55144
 

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yea, to me that sh1t is just cheesy.. its just not me
 

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Tim McGraw's "Live Like You Were Dying."

Great song. I've made it a habit to play that song once a week. Learning to go horseback riding at the moment. Fu Manchu may have to wait a bit, though. :)
 

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HIV negatif , good results :)
I still need to keep that high confidence attitude !
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Remember having high confidance is good .. but there are other things that can help you.

1. Always look PRESENTABLE when approachin girls whom interest you.

2. Match her energy level. If your energy level is too high/low, she will find you 'repulsive'

3. Do not be rude. A lot of guys here do neg hits. I do it too, but there is difference between neg hits (being funny) and being rude.

4. Do not be stupid. Again, PU is one thing, and being stupid is another.
 

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Hey ST i appreciate your advice alot ,
I ll try to think about it next time .

Last time i was coming back from sport , i was wearing crappy jogging , sweating etc ... talk about presentable lol !
 

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Good luck man, I was in your same boat. A girl I had a fling with was HIV+ I didn't exactly have your attitude though. I was Scared As Hell!!! i was in no position to tease anyone. Luckily I tested negative though. :eek:
 

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This might be better off as another thread but how do you ask a girl if she is clean before you have sex with her? without insulting her or repulsing her. I mean you can still wear a condom but you are not protected if you want to perform oral on her and she on you.
 

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i think you should talk about it with the girl when you 2 will have sex , get protection for the first time .

Just go get tested together (its free around where i live) then you can have safe sexe un protected if you both are HIV negative.

I dont like rubber personally, so when i can , i make sure the girl is clean and go without condom .
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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