LOOK!! Handling texting a girl to ask her to a formal

[Hate the game..]

My whole approach goes like this,

Me: I'm in a bit of a predicament (insert girls name)
Her: blah blah
me: I need a date for formal
Her: blah
Me: Dec. 15, come with me

What do you think? Trying to be straight forward.

Version 2 is

Me: So I've been meaning to ask you in person but given how busy we were I couldn't, but would you wanna come to our semi formal this weekend with me?

Any input would be very helpful.

 

[NewAndImproved]

My whole approach goes like this,

Me: I'm in a bit of a predicament (insert girls name)
Her: blah blah
me: I need a date for formal
Her: blah
Me: Dec. 15, come with me

What do you think? Trying to be straight forward.

Version 2 is

Me: So I've been meaning to ask you in person but given how busy we were I couldn't, but would you wanna come to our semi formal this weekend with me?

Any input would be very helpful.

If you're "trying to be straight forward", ask her in person.

Not saying I had the balls to back in the days when I went to formals, but I wish I started pushing my comfort zone back then.

 

[Hate the game..]

The problem is that I don't see her around very often, and just scheduling a meetup to ask her that seems needy, I just want to do it over text.

 

[Eph]

Asking her to formals over text is lame. You come off as too scared/not confident enough of asking her face to face. Whatever you need to do, meet up with her in person and ask her, but don't just walk up and ask. Try to transition into it. Just do your thing, make her laugh some, and then when you feel the fun dying down some, just be like,"so, got a date to formals yet?" and move from there.

 

[pdx1138]

+1 Eph

The date for my senior prom was a smokin hottie import from New Zealand. I was NERVOUS AS HELL to ask her.

What I did before I asked her, was chug 2 beers, then had some chewing gum to cover it. I was loosened up. I walked into where she worked, as luck would have it her lunch break had just come up, I just started asking her how her day was going and the next thing I know, we're across the street in a park just chatting away, then I mentioned I'd like to take her to my prom.

Without any hesitation she agreed.

Keep it fun. Chicks want to be around fun guys.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS. Be a man, suck it up and ask her in person or CALL HER.

 

[Trump]

My whole approach goes like this,

Me: I'm in a bit of a predicament (insert girls name)
Her: blah blah
me: I need a date for formal
Her: blah
Me: Dec. 15, come with me

Version 2 is

Me: So I've been meaning to ask you in person but given how busy we were I couldn't, but would you wanna come to our semi formal this weekend with me?

She could take your texts and post them up on Facebook, so all your 250 friends know who have no date for the formal while she is going out with a hockey player.

Texting is to get things done, get updates, set meetings. Not to ask a girl you like out to a dance...it's not sexy and too risky she could show her bf anything you write.

As Harry said...call.

 

[marmel75]

I text a lot but would probably pick up the phone for this one...

I wouldn't ask her to go to the formal I would ask if she has any plans for that date and when she says no, tell her something like:

"That's great, you're going to my formal with me, mark it on your calendar" and see what she says...

 

[marmel75]

+1 Eph

The date for my senior prom was a smokin hottie import from New Zealand. I was NERVOUS AS HELL to ask her.

What I did before I asked her, was chug 2 beers, then had some chewing gum to cover it. I was loosened up. I walked into where she worked, as luck would have it her lunch break had just come up, I just started asking her how her day was going and the next thing I know, we're across the street in a park just chatting away, then I mentioned I'd like to take her to my prom.

Without any hesitation she agreed.

Keep it fun. Chicks want to be around fun guys.

I'm more interested in what happened after the prom was over? Did you end up banging her back out?

 

[Hate the game..]

The only reason why I'm leaning to the text (I agree with doing it in person/over the phone in a best case scenario) is because a number of other fraternities have formals on the same date as mine. So as I found out last year, when I texted a girl version #2 of the text she had time to think and called off the formal (likely with a typical girl excuse, sorry i can't come my cat died.. or whatever) with her other date and then accepted my offer. If I approach her straight up she may not be able to maneuver around the fact that some other AFC already asked her because she doesn't have time to weigh the options.

See what I'm saying?

 

[Shivastorm_88]

You ask her by text, you'll look like a pansy and most likely she will refuse

You ask her face to face, she might refuse, but you'll look like a man who takes charge of things, her esteem of you will go up. Simply assume she will say no, this way you won't lose your composure

 

[BigSmooth]

To be honest, it's a fraternity formal.

I've texted girls before asking them to come with me.

I've also asked them in person.


I never really noticed anything different. Still a shag at the end.

 

[Hate the game..]

To be honest, it's a fraternity formal.

I've texted girls before asking them to come with me.

I've also asked them in person.


I never really noticed anything different. Still a shag at the end.

How did you ask over text? Just straight up?

 

[pdx1138]

I'm more interested in what happened after the prom was over? Did you end up banging her back out?

Ha ha, on the way to the prom she said "I like to jump right in, at the beginning of relationships."

I agreed and later that night we got to it at a party.

She was the most aggressive girl I've ever dated (to this day).
I recall one time going over to her house and her sister reminding her that boys
were not allowed in her room.