I'm sorry, but I don't agree.
One chick that I was good friends with, really close, since first grade, ended up turning out really hot in recent years. She always thought of me as sort of a shy and sensitive type of guy, which isn't really the case any more since I've been learning to DJ.
So what did I do to try and turn this friendship around after I was so well established with her as being a kinda quiet smart nice guy? First I took a reasonably long break from her. I didn't see her, and generally avoided her for about three months. Then, after a long hiatus, I sat down with her in the school library, when we both had some time to talk, and laid the new me out on the table in force.
I let her see the outgoing, super confident new me. I teased her with neg hits, and a ton o' ****y funny remarks. Kept the convo flowing smooth and fast. I let her see that I was totally in control of my destiny. The key was being fast and aggressive in the convo. Not just one neg hit, or just one ****y funny remark, but an intense maelstrom of them!
She was totally shocked. She kept on saying (with a lusty smile) how I had changed so much. How I wasn't acting like the kinda' quiet and friendly kid she thought she grew up with. And in that one conversation, since I hadn't spoken to her in a quite a while beforehand, I mannaged to COMPLETELY change her perception of me. What needed to be done for this to have worked was spending a considerable amount of time (at least a month) away from her, enough time so that a person could conceivably change themselves.
Our realationship with each other is much more flirty now. We're both busy with other relationships right now, but if they end, she's definately a viable option for the future
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I feel that anything is possible, and that most things in life are easy. You never have to accept a situation regarding ANYTHING.
My .02 cents.
- Maurizio