"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long term relationships

nan3109

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Does anyone have one? what do you guys do together (outings)?
how do you keep things fresh?

also, ive been seeing this girl for 5 months now but we only hang out once a week and most of the time we have sex. i was thinking about me and her hanging out more often and ****. she said this summer she'll be able to. any ways to get a girl to hang with your **** more often if you want a long term relationship?

(sorry for the vague post, but please get the idea and respond)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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theonedude

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wow, once a week is pretty much all u should see her, i thought, otherwise her interest level might drop
 

DJoneday

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I've actually been wondering about the same thing, I've been going out with a girl for a couple months now and we're pretty much in a LTR, with nothing more than touching above the waist (and making out etc of course)...I've been with her like two or three times a week as we go to diff schools. So any tips on that and how you all usually take things to higher levels during LTRs especially with inexperienced girls.

Thanks
 

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Originally posted by theonedude
wow, once a week is pretty much all u should see her, i thought, otherwise her interest level might drop
lol, most things here are guidelines that work individually when you start out but you should learn what works for you and do that and try out variations. If you have a great time with each other then by all means see each otehr more, ootehrwise what is the point. Unless of course she is a trophy girlfriend (not that we dont want them;) )
 
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