Enjin 7 I know you won't follow my advice, not now, but I know that in some time you will realize how right I was:
Don't listen to what kk2004 and the other guys are telling you!
Don't try to play the stupid coky "alpha male" thing, that's just pathetic. It is acceptable if you are at the lower half of the learning curve because it can help to solve some neediness and supplication issues, but when you are at the very top like myself, you realize how retarded and stupid things like "be alpha","act like a man" or "treat her like **** to make her chase you" are.
The guys that are giving you that kind of advice, who are the majority of the people on this site (which I strongly suggest you to leave),are as insecure as you are, if not more. They are AFCs who try to mask their insecurities with the useless **** that is taught in this site. They are fake, unnatural and incongruent. They are defensive around girls. They try to lower the girl's value to raise theirs. They use C&F in a way where they're sheltering their real personality. It is very transparent.
Try next time giving her a compliment on something you think is cool about her. You won't lose value.
If you're coming from the right place and not just seeking a reaction, then she'll just think you're a cool guy.
I know that this girl is very important for you and I want to help you.
Perhaps I will post more things later on but for now let me give you some insights:
Realize that you have the power to make this girl better than what she is, simply by virtue of being with you, being connected to you, being in your presence or even able to communicate some with you. She can feel more sexy, more intelligent, solve problems more easily, be more dedicated, be more rational, and so on. Does that sound like a grand claim? It's not. A good leader can bring out all those things in a person, and more. Who is that dependant on? YOU! She feels stronger, smarter, more confident, more socially savvy, more beautiful, and more powerful around you. Without you, she can't have that. What does that do
for your value? 10/10. When you deliver a compliment well (that's where the game comes in), you increase your value and hers... and yours MORE. There's an art to this, of course. It's possible to give a compliment that's supplicative. That raises her value a tiny bit, and lowers yours a lot. Same with perceived supplication. But imagine, for example, that a Tom Cruise-esque guy walks up to some girl, looks deeply into her eyes, and tells her that she carries herself so gracefully that he had to come speak with
her. Guess what? She's positively glowing , and his value has only gotten higher. Are you getting an idea of what I'm talking about? Do you nderstand the attitude that I want you to have? And if you're picking up everyone around you, you're getting social proofed too. Higher social status. More people want to be around you. It's cyclical.
In short: Don't try to cut her down so you're better than her. Instead, lead her and make people around you better people. You can do this by encouraging them, complimenting them when they do well, and disciplining them when they fail. You assume a high value, and you create even more by this attitude. Really,everyone you meet will be picked up a bit, and become a better person if they work with you.
I really believe that weak body language, unattractive behavior, social
incompetence, etc are really just symptoms of low self-esteem, lack of
confidence, and fear.
Try to fix these things first. It isn't an easy job but once you have fixed that you wil undersand my post, up to that point I suppose you and the others will ignore it
