"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long periods of absense?

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Right before I left home for college, I went on a date with this girl who is staying in the same city for school. The date went well (not THAT well ;) ) but she is definitely into me.

Anyway, that was about 3 weeks ago. I won't be back home until December, so my question is:

Should I call her at all? Obviously, it would have to be just to talk, since I can't set anything up with 350 miles in between us. She doesn't get texts on her phone, she doesn't have facebook, I don't have her email address, anything! I don't really like doing the whole phone thing, but is it better than having no contact at all?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girls talk to each other. When guys talk to girl, they become their girl friends. That's why usually army dudes away on a mission that talk to their girls come back to a girl who's sleeping with another guy.
 
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You're clinging on to this one girl? I thought you said you were in college. Pardon me, but aren't there girls all around you?
 
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I never said I'm clinging to this girl. I didn't even think about her until a couple of minutes before I posted that. It's not a big deal, I'm just wondering which would be better.
 
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Don't call her at all. Give her a call when you come back, and invite her to "catch up". Then pull some slick moves :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AlexTheGreat said:
Don't call her at all. Give her a call when you come back, and invite her to "catch up". Then pull some slick moves :)
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I'm an Alex too :D

you're right, thanks.
 
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